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writes:I am feeling fairly worthless. Someone got promoted at my work who is less experienced than I am, and younger. She's got very little experience to work in that capacity, and complains to management frequently about people who apparently upset her and/or bully her. I wouldn't call her strong or motivated, she gets easily upset by people. They moved her to a location where she'll mostly be alone.Our performance, qualifications, writing skills and amount of over-time are all the same. So, it's not as though she's any more special than I am... She just complains and talks more about others in the workplace.She applied for the job, but I didn't. That's about the only difference. Do management promote people to a different location to get rid of them if they are trouble makers? For example, they may have a hidden agenda.Has someone ever been promoted in your workplace, who you thought didn't deserve to be? What did you think to yourself? What happened to them in the end... ?Just because someone works in a position, does it mean that they are always good for the job?I don't want this feeling of worthlessness to effect my relationship at home. I'm not as outgoing, or loud-mouthed like everyone else. I don't talk about people... But I'm a hard worker. I just get down when I'm over-looked.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2011): Maybe you could talk to your supervisor or manager and ask why you didn't get the promotion. If this sort of a thing is common in the company you work for, I suggest you start looking for another job.
In the country where I live for the time being, the best (paid) jobs go to people who had bad grades in college, have no ambition, have nothing to offer and would never get a job if they had to do it the normal way. The reason they get hired is because they have connections. I know several people who now work for the government and have huge salaries even though they are fresh out of college, they had bad grades, they don't speak English or any foreign language. I am a thousand times better candidate on the job market than they are, but I have zero chance of getting such a job. The only way to keep some sort of peace of mind in such a situation is to not think about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2011): If this woman is easily ruffled and often complains to management about others then that is the reason she was moved to a location where she'll mostly be alone. I'm surprised you didnt see this. You had the answer right there in your own post.
It may officially be called a promotion but I suspect in management's mind this is more of a lateral move to get her away from others and out of their hair.
Chin up. They weren't overlooking you. They were removing a problem for everyone.
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reader, DanceInTheDark  +, writes (22 July 2011):
 You didn't apply.
YOU DIDN'T APPLY.
You don't get to feel sad, if you don't speak up for what you want, you don't get to run around and cry when you don't get it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2011): exactly, as a nurse this happens all the time to folks in my field. They have an old saying "screw up and move up" the fact that she is talking with managment about anything makes her more seen. They more they see you and get to know you the more they like you. yes loud mouth jokesters in my eyes do get promotions as well as those who complain about others. I guess they are seen as caring? go figure. Make yourself more seen join their little clubs stay for meetings. Stop off at the bosses office and schmooze. Find out what they are into and talk up TV, music and the like.....good luck. I know how you feel and it makes me sick but I guess that is exactly how the game works!
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (22 July 2011):
 I wish I could say otherwise, but "life sucks". Such things happen. From what you say, you're maybe not as good for office politics, and that is a good skill to have if you plan to climb the corporate ladder on virtues other than hard work.
I can only suggest that you put this behind you. It might affect your performance at work. And, someone could use it against you, particularly this person who got promoted in your stead.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2011): If you didn't apply for the job and she did, thats why nobody was aware you wanted the promotion!
I have a friend who didn't get the promotion she wanted recently and could not understand why she wasn't picked. Other people however, could - she lacked the people skills required for the role. She started to apply elsewhere but didnt find anything so has just accepted the fact she wasn't successful, this time.
My own manager is useless, 2 faced and pretty dangerous. However she is good at crying, so though she has had a written warning recently the powers that be daren't upset her too much or she runs to the doctors for 'tablets' and has time off for depression.
Thats life I am afraid
My solution is to be looking for another job, makes me feel I am doing something positive about the situation and eventually I will be able to leave. Maybe you should re hash your CV and start looking?
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