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writes:My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost four months. Things are going fantastic between us except the sexual aspect of the relationship. Basically, he has a high sex drive and I don't. Occasionally, I can feel pressured into doing it with him, even though he is a Christian and has a strong belief against sex before marriage. We have discussed this issue on more than one occasion because he is considering marrying me, and says that we will have sex regularly and lots of it. He knows that I am worried about it because my drive isn't high, but he says this is normal until I am in my 30s, when it will be at its highest, so is still up for marriage, which I want too. So, what do I do for the time being - do I let him pleasure me when we both want it, or stop it (and the relationship) entirely? Am I abnormal to have a low sex drive at my age and why? I don't want it to hinder our relationship as I love him. Please help, thank youuuu!
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reader, VSAddict  +, writes (22 July 2011):
 You don't have to stop the relationship because of differing sex drives. Just find the times when you are both in the mood to be intimate. It shouldn't be forced or pressured so only do it when both of you are comfortable. Your sex drive is normal as there's no certain level of sex drive to have at any age, so don't worry. If he really loves you, he will learn to appreciate it and won't let this become a problem in the relationship. Hope I helped.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2011): guys alomst always have a higher sex drive than girls.. it's normal.. its a little more complex than some girls and guys realize. most guys would just go and masturbate if their girlfriends sex drive is lower. its also more work to please a girl than it is a guy.if i was in your situation i would address that there is a difference in you two's sex drives,let him know that you are all for him getting those things emptied, and that you require some "mood enhancement" make him feel comfortable getting quickies and blow jobs etc. as needed without having full-blown exhausting sex every time (frequency depending on his sex drive)as long as he's willing to give you great foreplay and all the work it takes to get you off when it comes time to please you (frequency depending on your sex drive) if you two are planning on holding off until marriage (which is great) now would be a great time to explain your fantasies and help each other understand the things you'd want out of a sex life.. (explain foreplay to him, or what ever it is that you'd want) it's even better that you can talk about this stuff now rather than after you start being intimate, because no feelings can get hurt.. that's a win-win-win! hope this helps..
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