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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I have been in love with this girl for three years now. She is beautiful, charming, witty... I fell in love at first sight - when we met I felt as if I'd known her all my life, and I truly love her with all my heart. The thing is, I just can't work out what's going on with her. Looking back on it now (I didn't see it at the time) she must have liked me for the first 18 months or so we knew each other - I know from the way we looked at each other and how she acted around me, which I thought was just a girl thing, but now I know what it really was. Anyway, thinking there was at least a chance she felt how I felt, I was shocked when she started going out with an older guy (by about 2/3 years). I was completely heartbroken, and worried she might lose her virginity to him. That lasted for a few months, during which she barely talked to me. After a long while thinking I had lost her forever, it became apparent that she was no longer with the older guy, and we started to get close to each other again, much more so than we had done before - we told each other all about ourselves, what we like and dislike etc. And we would sit near each other in class when we could, and she started sending silly/flirty text messages. After spending virtually a whole day together on a school field trip, I decided that I really should tell her how I felt about her.However, in the next few days, she inexplicably completely lost interest in me, was very distant when we were around each other, and stopped texting me. What's more she started flirting and spending time with one of my freinds who seems to fancy her. Worse still, one of her freinds guessed that I liked her and very soon everyone knew (presumably her included)..Next thing I know is that somewhere along the line there was another boyfreind. A couple of weeks later I discover there's yet another boy she likes. (I don't know if she went out with him, and I don't know how far she went with her other boyfreinds either).About a month or so goes by and we finally talk again. she stops me in a corridor and asks me to wait for her while she talks to a teacher. Then we walk and talk with each other for a while. Although it was a little tense because she knows I like her and I know she knows and she knows I'm afraid to tell her. Yet, she seemed to look and smile at me the way she did before.But how can I believe she likes me now after she has had so many romances with other boys? Has she liked me all along, but gets frustrated so tries to pursue others instead? Or am I just one of a great many boys she knows and she is only nice to me because she knows how I feel? Would anything really change if I tell her I love her? She truly stands out from every other girl because of her sweet, innocent charm, her irresistably pretty face, her beautiful curved body, and her incredible strength of character - she can have any boy she wants and she knows it.Thanks alot for reading that! I love this girl with all my heart and feel she is the only one for me. All your help will be greatfully recieved.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2010): Thank you anonymous female aged 16.
I'm glad it all worked out for you, but I can't help feeling that being her best freind, always being there for her etc, is exactly what all the other losers who are just trying to get with her are doing, so I won't stand out to her at all!
You are very reassuring nonetheless, and I certainly hope you were right about dying trying!
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reader, Ms. Love Doctor  +, writes (25 August 2010):
Don't give up but you must back up and give her space. Start hanging out with girls that she is jealous of so, she can see that you are happy then she will run back too you if she really likes you if not have fun.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (25 August 2010):
 You can tell her, but do it in a way that you know you can control (e.g. with a smile) so as to not make things awkward should she not reciprocate those feelings you have for her. Be casual, be friendly and listen to what she says.
I hope that helps.
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reader, kokeshi +, writes (25 August 2010):
 Your emotions are wasted on this girl right now.She is probably all the lovley things you said about her.At the moment she is a young girl playing the feild.I can not see her having emotions for you as strong as you do for her.
You have made yourself availible for her whenever she is inbetween romances giving you hope of something really special happening between you two.
The better idea would be to move on and not be availible everytime she clicks her fingers x
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2010): Oh my goodness3
I'm a 16 year old girl & I can say I went through the same thing. So heres my thoughts
Shes young. She has hormones. Girls like feeling 'bad'. Many like attention from males.
Maybe she did lose her virginity. But dont let it bother you.
If you truly love her, & think this girl is worth everything, then hold on.
Be her best friend, be there for her when she needs a friend, dont always tell her not to be dating other guys. But showing that you're hurt WILL affect her. She'll start to feel guilty knowing shes hurting you. & this could probably take months. Or her being in two relationships.
Love never fails, & showing it, by being there for her, never turning away, helping her when she feels low is the best thing to do.
Because my boyfriend did that to me. & I'm dead in love with him now.
Its your decision, you might never get her, & I know it must hurt. You probably feel like you're dying. But its better to die trying right?
Dont give up on love3
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