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writes:My ex girlfriend says she loves me and always will, she say's she wants me back but not right now. What does that mean?She wants to be friends but, how do you just be friends? I have a hard time doing that because I am a very loving guy. I like to spoil my girl and treat her like a princess. For me to just be her friend is really hard because I always want so much more and I am afraid I will just be like "I love you, I want you, I miss you" all the time and push her farther away.Right now we talk through email because the new guy that she is seeing goes through her phone and what not so she logs onto my email and that's how we talk right now by sending messages back and forth through my account. The only other line of communication is through her mother, and when she goes to her moms house.I need to persuade her to leave this guy, how do I do that too? She pretty much has "battered wife syndrome"Understand what I mean?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2010): Yep, that's the deal. I'm sure she would be glad to keep you around doing all the emotional support that she is used to getting. It would really complete the picture for her to have that role filled by you. That way she can screw around with asshole guys that she will never get that kind of affection from at the same time.Are you getting the picture here? She wants you to keep doing the work of a BF without getting the payoff anymore. Screw that. Respect yourself and pull back from her. Talk to her less often and start getting a life outside of her. That means OTHER GIRLS in your life. It still may never get her back this way but at least it stands a chance of doing it. Right now you are being a doormat and you have zero chance of getting her to commit to you again.
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reader, hiro06  +, writes (11 November 2010):
Dont freaking be an ex friend 1 she will always to come to you when she is sad or emotinal and talk to you about her feelings and current boyfriend 2 you will develop jealousy issue 3 your jealousy issues will push her away. Trust me its the same story every time and it always ends the same. The best thing to do is either 1 stay friends with and date other people and keep your relationship casual, which means no being one of her guy-girlfreinds or 2(which is the best option) Be honest with her tell her how you feel that you cant be her friend because you are too emotional evolved(you love her). You will probable lose her forever, but she will respect you for it. You have to show her that you are willing to walk away and you are not some puppet she can play with. You have to have some self-respect for yourself and learn to walk away. The best thing to do is realize that its not meant to be and pick up the pieces of your heart and move on. Ask yourself this if she really was in love with me why isnt she dating me? The answer is she only see you as a friend but she cares for you so she wants to keep you in her life as a FRIEND AS A FRIEND. Get it through your head she only likes you AS A FRIEND. And plus once a girl puts you in a friend zone its hard to get out trust me. I have done the same thing you are thing about doing multiple times in my life and it has all ended the same way so I warn you now dont do it. The only reason I am being so hard because you will only end up hurting yourself. Plus, why is she keep you a secret from her current bf anyways. Google Carlos Xuma I used to be like you. Message if you need any help and I will give you my personal email. You need to improve your game.
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