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writes:Ok, just curious, is it so weird for a girl of 25 not to have a boyfriend and have never date and have sex before? i find it super annoying when people ask me these questions and when i say "no", they look at me like I am an alien and start to bombard me with "why not ?". For me, i never have much luck with relationship, either I'm too shy or to proud to pursue it. There had been a few times that i like the guy and i can sense that he's somewhat interested in me too (friends around us sense that mutual interest and tease us too), but that's it, we never carry it further. I don't know if you'd called this a vague relationship or what, but for one guy, we often flirt with each other, always stick together like twins when around friends, we like to purposely joke about things that's not sincere just to tease each other, make fun of each others like saying "i think she/he likes you, why don't u accept her/him", and etc. For example, there was one time when i was writing, he intentionally shake the desk so that i ended up have to erase all the messy hand writing. When i "scolded " at him, he took my hand into his and said "let me help you erase it". And also, sometimes when I ask him if he wants something, he would say "feed me". When i say i need to go to the canteen to get something, he just sent his friends to get it for me. When people tease us about our sketchy relationship, he only laugh but neither denied nor acknowledge it.From my perspective, I do not see it as a big deal for not having a boyfriend, even though i envy others sometimes. I think people are pathetic as to just grab anyone to be their bf/gf because they think being single is shameful. i hate it when i always hear my friends saying that " i want to have a bf/gf!", as if they can't live without one~ being 25 and a virgin might be pitiful, but i don't see the need to look for a one-night stand with a stranger ~what do you guys think ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2011): Be proud for staying true to you, it does not matter either way virgin or not, you stuck to what you believe.Enjoy been you. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much for all your replies; you've given me lots of comforts through your posts and I really appreciate that
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reader, drhit1007 +, writes (13 March 2011):
I would not say you're pitiful at all for being 25 and a virgin. If I were to meet a girl and she's still a virgin, I'd be really impressed. You should definitely be proud! I've only had sex with one girl and it was while I was in a serious relationship with her. A lot of my friends talk about sex like it's no big deal. As a guy, yeah it's nice, but I don't see how casual sex is OK. I do a lot of the things that he does... the poking fun, and messing with the girl. If that were me, I'd say he's looking for something a little more than just flirting. If you're looking for more, ask him out and go from there... if that's what you want of course. Good luck!
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reader, tazzy101 +, writes (13 March 2011):
oh gosh i wish there where more people like you in this world .....NO!! ur golden ..wait for it to be special and tht person will feel special tht ur there first ....it is ok i actually admire you and aplod your boldness (:
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2011): I really liked your post.Its not shameful though people sometimes makes feel its strange.Even I am nearly 23 , never had any serious relationship and still virgin but not because I didn't approach or never took interest in people but never found the one to be perfect or liked them so much.I think myself to be lucky that I don't have to get along with someone just like that yet when people asks me and I say no, their expression comes as 'How strange!'So never mind what people says, just be yourself.
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