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*achaparritax19
writes:Well a couple of days ago it was my boyfriend and i first time that we had sex. We had been wanting to do it before but we didnt have a chance to. So everytime we made out i would turn him on. And when we finally had the place to have time together and alone, he got turned on but even before we stared he came, and we didnt do much. im dissapointed. should i tell him or should i wait for our next time ? Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (4 November 2010):
 Give him a chance :) Hopefully he will be able to have a second erection and figure out what to do to pleasure you as well.
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reader, Welsh Uncle Dave  +, writes (4 November 2010):
He needs to relax and learn about controlling himself. Of course this is a lot harder when you are new to something.
But there is one way around it which does help is to perform oral sex on him or masturbate him so he climaxes. Once he has done then you can enjoy sex more as it will take him longer to climax again.
The more you have sex orally or penetrative, the more he will get used to the sensations and be able to last longer.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2010): this is a problem many men seem to have now i have no idea why this happens but the best thing you can try is tell him not to be so focused on just sex because too much focus before the act might cause him to come early
hoped i helped
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (4 November 2010):
 Was it his absolute first time too ?
Pretty normal .
Even if he was his first time with YOU,- still pretty normal.
Emotions, nervousness, the novelty, play this kind of trick.
Of course, unluckily there are guys who always ejaculate too soon, but before concluding this is his problem, you need to wait quite a few more times.
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reader, abacalover +, writes (4 November 2010):
Your b/f must be very young and like most beginners unaware that females have expectations as well as needs also.... But l was once so young and confused. Satisfying myself was all l did. l never gave a moments thought about my g/f or her needs. In fact l was not aware that girls had a clitoris or what it was... My g/f allowed me to enter her each time we were able to find a safe place and in a few moments l was finished.
What your boyfriend experienced was premature ejaculation. It comes from being SO excited to se and touch a girl's body and just thinking about penetrating her is enough excitement to cause ejaculation.
But it does not have to end there. Tell your b/f to tke a brief rest... then start hugging and kissing and if need be fondling his penis. Soon he and it will be ready and this time his performance will improve... a lot once he trys to control his emotions .... and not allow himself to get so passionante that he again climaxas too soon.
As with most things experience is the best techer.... and he needs to learn CONTROL.
Why not start by masturbating him to orgasm so he will be able to hold off longer once inside you? As an 18 yr old l could ejculate 3 times and each time it took longer for me to climax. lts the same with all guys.
Oral sex is another way to stimulate him if he is not hard or a means to releasing his first shot... good luck...
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