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writes: I have been with this guy for 3 years. We have been having sex since we were 5 months into our relationship. I have not had an orgasim and he can not make me cum while hes on top. I have to fake it and finish the job later on myself. Is their something wrong w/me? Advice anyone??? Reply to this Question
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reader, trausis04 +, writes (15 November 2006):
Keep in mind that most girls, including myself, rarely orgasm from penetrative sex. I don't know how you or your boyfriend feel about oral sex but that usually does the trick. If you've been with him for 3 years you should be able to give hints that will help him along. DON'T FAKE, if he knew that or thought that was the case it would KILL his ego. Good Luck (There is nothing wrong with you - completely normal!)
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2006): You have to be comfortable enough with your partner that you should never have to fake an orgasm. If I tell my partner I didn't cum, he will try harder the next time. You have to guide them where to go. Every woman is different and communication is the number one answer. I've been with my partner for 15 years. We were together for 5 years before he could make me cum. Sometimes I get to wet and numb that he just can't do it, so you take care of it yourself. Good luck!
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reader, LISAG +, writes (15 November 2006):
 Nothing wrong at all. Penatrative sex alone does not make your average female cum - it's fairly rare! Women fake orgasm to save men's feelings usually, when really women should show men how to make them come. What you do when you finish yourself off needs to be introduced to him... try not to be shy or embarrassed. He will love to see what really makes you come and you will be giving him an extremely important lesson in love (sex) - let's not confuse the two things although linked ! Men love confident women who know what they want, i.e. not scared to say/show what is needed. I personally have to help things along always, oral sex will usually get you most of the way there, don't be too shy to use your fingers whilst he's penetrating you, you might be self concious to start with but perservere, he will enjoy sex with you a lot more if you are honest and he knows you are coming for sure ! You may have to tactfully talk to him about it away from the bedroom, make sure you don't make it sound like it's his shortcomings as he will get de-motivated if you do !
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