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writes:hi evry bodyi have just know a boy from internet and after a week he told me that he love me shod i bleave him or not ?
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reader, Andy00  +, writes (10 July 2007):
 A week is a very short time to fall in love with somebody. I met my girlfriend via internet and we didn't share are feelings until about 4 months after.
If you are interested in meeting him, make sure you do it in a very public, and, for extra caution, bring a friend with you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2007): Even if he was sincere, you should be careful regardless. Some people in the world mistake love for lust, and others mistake love for personal self-satisfaction - to fill a void that they have longed for, etc.
Even if you believe him, the question you should actually be asking is "Do you love him, and do you accept his love?" If you answered yes to that question, then ask yourself, "How did you fall in love with him?" and "Why do you think and/or feel you love him?"
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2007): NOT!!
As the other aunts and uncles have said, you have to be very careful with internet dating, ESPECIALLY with someone you have not met in person, nor talked to on the phone, nor seen his picture! He really could be anybody: a 40-year old seeking underage girls; simply trying to gain your trust; could be a pervert, creep and/or married.
You cannot possibly know - unless you see him on webcam or meet in person - and when/if you meet in person it would be advisable to take a few friends with you. Meet in a public place for coffee; get there by yourself, and leave to go home without him. Don't let him offer to pick you up or take you in his car (if he has one).
The above is all general "rules of the road" for safe dating someone you meet online.
HOWEVER: I have to say that him telling you he loves you after one week is a HUGE red flag! It should serve as a warning to drop him as if he were a hot potato you picked up with your bare hands right out of the oven!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2007): i think you know he cant love you after a week !!!!! Get rid FAST . the internet is a strange cyber world, where people can be whoever they want , .......
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reader, kenny +, writes (9 July 2007):
 You have got to be really careful with internet dating, as you really do not know who you are talking to. For him to say i love you after such a short space of time, well im sorry he is either a desperado, or he is just playing games. Be careful with this guy, if you do ever decide to meet anyone off the internet always tell someone where you are going, or better still take someone with you.
Good luck x
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (9 July 2007):
 Maybe he's in love with the idea of you. I don't think he's in love of you, either, since he hasn't even seen you.
In some cultures, people say "I love you" in order to communicate they want to explore a relationship, and that they are serious about it. I don't know where this guy is from. I do advise you to take care; you don't really know who is at the other side.
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reader, flower girl +, writes (9 July 2007):
 After a week, he is having a laugh babe sorry to say that but it's vertually impossible to be in love with someone in such a short space of time, especially when you have not even met.
Take care.xx.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2007): sweetheart,
Judging by what you wrote im guessing your only 13/14 and no one of that age knows what true love is and speacially not some one who hasn't even met you!
Me being through this myself i know that you can get mixed up with love and lust really easily! And me myself being a agony aunt i should tell you that there are safty issues here that you need to address.
Also the fact that this person may not even be who he claims to be. As im sure your probably aware of all these perves and offenders in chat rooms who pick up young girls of a very little age they do not care how you feel.
Here are some questions you need to ask yourself:
How long have you knwon this guy?
Are you sure this is a boy and not some man?
Have you seen his picture, on webcam etc?
And most importantly how do you feel towards this guy? and wheather he is really genuin.
I hope this helps you and as far as this guy is involved, i think you should go for people you know face to face so that you don't turn up on the news oneday as a child whose family are searching for because they have gone missing!
Hope you sort this out soon.
Take care,
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reader, jtaunton5410  +, writes (9 July 2007):
 No no no no!!!! dont beleive something like that. you have never even met him and he is trying to prey on you to see how far he can get with you. Sweetie, protect yourself and maybe not even meet him at all. He could be one of those stalker guys that wants to do something to you.
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reader, bubbloo24  +, writes (9 July 2007):
 Hun, this guy's a creep. I'm sure that he's just saying it to gain your trust.
I say get rid... I honestly think that it wouldn't be wise to hang about with him.. I think he's out to cause trouble.
Take care xx
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reader, sprocks +, writes (9 July 2007):
The guy is full of crap dont believe him maybe some day you will see eachother and fall in love then but he probably cant say he loves u after talking to u for a week.
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