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writes: Well, i met this girl in a chatroom after 6 months i have really got to know her and we talk almost everyday for hours (online) we have great conversations about everything. We are both 18 and are desperate to meet each other even though she is in Russia and i am in England. I really love her, i have had girlfriends here in england but none of them even are in the same league as her in every way and she really loves me too. We had both said that we wont have any sexual relationships or do anything with another guy/girl at all, and i havn't and i trust she hasn't too. We hope to meet sometime next year. I just want some advice can this really work? Can love concour distance? Is it good for us to make the desicion not to have relationships at all? i hope it does because she means the world to me.
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reader, Calidus +, writes (18 December 2005):
I know plenty of people whos been together after long distance relationships and met together, some havnt worked out but others have been married for years!!!Also Irish49 it would seem you have a very negative view towards internet dating, depsite how its becomming a very popular for couples to meet, and whats to say that person is lying? if 1 is telling the truth the other may be as well.. Take the chance man or you'll regret it for the rest of your life, the only problem that may occur as i can see, is perhapes a language barrior.. but if you both talk on the phone then this shouldnt be a prob (www.skype.com) has a phone service to anywhere in the world form anywhere for very cheap rates, if you havnt spoken to her yet over the phone or net try this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2005): You won't like my answer but you asked for opinions as to whether "if love can concour distance?" Firstly, I am a strong proponent of people always basing their lives and loves on common sense and the best possible choices. You do not know this woman, you just know who she says she is. She could be someone totally different. You are proclaiming 'love' for her but I am wondering how there could be a love connection here? Because,what you are loving is not real...until you meet face to face. Sometimes we get desperate to love but we lose our common sense. Be aware, it sounds like your judgment is blinded, so you need to make sure that someone who knows you in "real life" is involved in your meeting and getting to know this woman, in person.
I feel badly for you because you opened your heart is opened to someone who is 'online'and not 'real life'. You are putting a lot of hopes into this working out. I really hope it does work for you but I worry, you could be badly hurt if this doesn't pan out. In the real world, couples meet within the context of friends and family, they watch for mannerisms, clues into the character of this person, they get thoughts, 2nd opinions from others before considering to 'even' date this person. You both have bypassed all this. When she does come, have a trusted friend or family member meet her as well. She should be doing the same with you, if you were to go to her. I'm not saying it won't work dear...just stay wise and be careful. Real love takes a long, long time to get established. So one needs to protect themselves and develop some self-discipline, especially with online friends. I wish you happiness and all the best, dear
Hugs, Irish
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2005): hello i think i can help my friend once met a guy on the internetand she was really really anxious to meet him and she lived in england and he lived in australia so they arranged to meet up when she went to australia for a holiday and they met and spent a whole 2 weeks together and now they are 21 n 22 and have both moved in a really nice house in england and have 2 kids so ye it can work and dont worry 1 bit xxx
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