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writes: I am currently in a relationship which is difficult as I am constantly feeling unloved and uncared for although my bf tells me he loves me etc. I just always feel second best, basically I'm seeing my boss and it's so frustrating as we did fall madly in love. Now things have got serious things have cooled off a bit which I can't handle because of the situation. I love him immensely but feel so depressed at the same time. I feel like I'm just a big secret to him and I'm insecure anyway so I just don't know what to do... I've tried talking but don't know how to approach it and I know it is my insecurities not his!
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reader, Sexybum  +, writes (10 March 2006):
 Never say its my insecurities and not his. When you are in a relationship with someone and they care about you then they take your feelings on board and try their best to make you happy.
How long have you guys been seeing each other? I wonder if there are pressures in your life now, pherhaps that yo both work with each other, or is there a lot of work on thats taking up either of your energy. Sometimes relationships can be dampened from outside pressure.
You feel like a big secret to him, has your relationship been kept a secret from everyone else in the workplace? If so you may want to find out why this is. And if YOU are unhappy about this, then thats ok YOU are entitled to have your own feelings. You need to talk to talk to him and find out why he wants to keep it a secret. Tell him you are ready to let the world know, why isn't he?
You say you've tried to talk to him about this but can't find the way. Does he just blank you out and bypass the converstaion or is it a case of you can't express yur feelings how you wish to? Do you think if you printed off your question and showed it to him along with the string of answers you will receive, it would help you in letting him know how you feel?
I know I've rambled on, it would be useful if you expanded on your situation and your 'clossness', If I have a bigger picture of what your relationship is like and how you are being treated then I can pherhaps give you more beneficial advice... Also how old are you, and how old is your boos/ partner?
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