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female
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51-59,
anonymous
writes:Hi there, looking for some outside objective on this.I recently broke up with my bf of 1.5 years 10 days before my 40th birthday. We broke up because he knew I loved him and he didnt feel as if he felt the ame ad said it wasnt fair on me. We stayed friendly and he took me out to a zoo the day after my birthday and sent me flowers on the day. 1 week later we are back together, him saying he has alot more feeling for me than he realised, how much he misssed me and how much he wants me in his life.He said things will be better and different and he will be able to express his emotions for me, but he wouldnt say the L word straightaway as he said I wouldnt believe him.Our reunion was very rushed as I had to work the next day and we'd had a very late night, however he had the next day off and couldve come up to see me in the afternoon and eve as I finish early. He wouldnt as he said we'd both be too tired and he had an early shift the next day ( 7am) and it takes an hour to drive from mine to his. I was so dissappointed as I need to see some evidence that he is willing to put more into the relationship.Also I am miffed as he has conveniently got out of buying me a present. He seems to think the flowers and cheap day at the zoo were enough,. I have nothing from him to mark my 40th and feel as we were only apart for 2 weeks its a bit much for him to skip over it.Because of his shift pattern and the distance we live apart it may take a little while to see if anything has changed, but surely he should be going out of his way to demonstrate his newly realised feelings in order to reassure me. He has told me verbally that he is definitley sure how much I mean to him and I want to believe him.How long should I give it, what do you think on the gift issue, how can I know whether he has changed if he wont tell me - i love you- or show me he means to be different.Thanks in advance
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reader, 1perrito  +, writes (9 March 2009):
 This seams to me like the typical long distance relationship.
From my experience, long distance relationships are very difficult. Time is of the essence. In those relationships, I have never found my happy ending.
I can see your frustration, though. My suggestion to you (albeit, painfull) is to end this. Find a man closer to your haus and family.
I certainly hope that this little bit of advice will help.
FRM
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