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writes:So, basically, I have been with my boyfriend for five months now, and we've been having sex for about 3 months. We have always been safe and responsible, using condoms as protection. However, recently, I considered going on the conraceptive pill as well to be extra safe. I read a lot of information on the internet, and decided that the side effects seemed too extreme, so I wouldn't take it. My boyfriend told me that I should, and repeatedly tried to persuade me to, even after I made it clear I wasn't going to. He has now said that we are not going to have sex anymore because he is too scared of me getting pregnant, and never felt safe with condoms. This hurts me, because he knows how much I enjoy sex, I have told him many times that I do. And I always felt like our relationship was healthy and sex was a way of feeling connected. This sudden bombshell and sex ban has made me feel insecure and unhappy, I can't make him have sex with me and I dont want to cheat. I just dont know what to do anymore, I am in love with him, but I doubt he is in love with me otherwise he would take my feelings into consideration. Any help anyone?
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reader, alanna_HD +, writes (31 December 2008):
 As well as a condom and spermicide,you could combine this with natural contraception..and theres NO side effects!! If you don't know what natural contraception is, there's a lot of very clear information that explains it on the internet. There is NO health risks, so that will put your mind at rest, and it seriously reduces the risk of pregnancy which should keep him happy!lol and you won't have to 'ban' sex =D but always ALWAYS use it with a condom!!!
OR..alternatively,if you are both open to try it,just sick to masterbation and oral sex, but for your pleasure try toys as a 'substitute' in bed??
Good luck =
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reader, blackroses2989  +, writes (31 December 2008):
 While I understand that he doesn't want to get you pregnant, that sounds absolutely absurd! I can't take birth control due to the side effects I had from it. I jave tried three different types/ dosages and the side effects were worse everytime. There are plenty of things nowadays that protect from pregnancy. Condoms are the number 1 most helpful. Also, get a bottle of spermicide. If the condom splits make sure you have a few extra " Plan B" pills with you While they are not for every day use they help in case of a split condom or emergency. I have been with my boyfriend a while now, and have relied on condoms and spermicide. Go to the doctor and ask for other options aside from birth control and have your boyfriend go with you, that may help to soothe his insecurities. Good luck honey!
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