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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I've been with my boyfriend for almost two years now and because of our financial situation we were never able to go from upstate New England to Florida to visit my mother and little brother. I've been promoted and I'm now full time and I have paid vacation time to use, but my boyfriend refuses to go to Florida because he would miss two classes and a few days of work. Which I have offered to comp him money for on top of paying for travel and accommodations when we get there in over a month from now. He said he would miss two days of work and two classses(which the work could be emailed to him.) Am I being unreasonable to think he should take the time to meet my immediate family when we've been living together for a year and a half and together for two? Most meet the parents happen after five months. This is ridiculous. He's making up every excuse to get out of it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2012):
I have to agree with all the other post.. And add thus.. Some classes have a absence clause, you are only allocated 2 to 3 absences and if you go over these, they will automatically take you of the course..
So taking time of for your bf is impractical at the minute, why not do as aunt honesty says and pay for your family to come visit you.. Wouldn't that be real nice..
Take care sweetie
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (4 December 2012):
 I have to agree, he does not want to take time off work or miss classes. Which is good enough reasons. Yes he might be nervous about meeting your family and these are just excuses, but if he has work and classes then I think you need to respect that, this is not an emergency. Why not invite your mother and your brother to come and stay with use for a couple of days instead of you heading up there, or else wait until he doesn't have classes and he is free to go.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (3 December 2012):
 Kudoos to him for not wanting to take your money if it is not really an emergency or an absolute necessity ( which the visit to your family is not , for him ).
He MAY be making excuses, but at least he found very good ones.
Most people meet the parents sooner- when it does not involve long distance travel.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (3 December 2012):
 Ya know, if you asked me right now to miss work for a pleasure trip, I'd say no. I just don't have the time to be off of work right now.
And to miss two days of classes for me would be killer.
Can't you go when he doesn't have school?
I assume your family does not come north in the summer either?
He MAY be making excuses but to me not missing school and work seem like viable reasons for not taking a pleasure trip.
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