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writes:I ask for advice, not to be judged as I know what I did was wrong, please. I have a boyfriend I care very deeply about, a few weeks ago I caught him texting a girl in a way that was massively inappropriate and wrong. After confronting him, we talked it out, and he admitted he was sorry and it was childish and wrong but he never acted on any of the texts, he never physically cheated on me and I believe him and after a while forgave him. That by no means justifies my recent behaviour however, as I am not a point-scorer, I don't believe in holding grudges and playing games so I am ashamed of what I have recently done. Needless to say though, the fact that he sent inappropriate texts to another girl made my trust and feelings for him change slightly and I won't deny it has played in the back of my mind since. I have an ex-boyfriend who I've stayed good friends with for a long time now, to cut a long story short, I caught up with him the other night, got drunk and kissed him passionately. He currently has a girlfriend and I have my boyfriend and I know it was wrong but it felt so, so right and I just felt so happy to be with him again. It was just a kiss, but it bought back really happy feelings. I am not the kind of girl who cheats, really, this was a one-time error, but I just don't know whether to put it behind me as a one-time drunken mistake, or whether I seriously need to question why these strong feelings for my ex-boyfriend came as I really did think I was over him but now I don't know if I am. Or do I need to just look forward to the future and try and sort things out with my current boyfriend rather than just get involved with a boy from the past? I don't want people to tell me I'm a bad person and a cheater on here please, I really just feel I've made a mistake but am confused about my feelings, please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2012): Being drunk is no excuse. I suspect you still harbour strong feelings for your ex and in that state you acted on what you felt. You say it felt so right. You need time out from your current BF and figure out who you really want to be with.
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reader, BeBlessed  +, writes (18 July 2012):
 Try work things out with your man girl.
you left your ex for a reason so dont forget those reasons. but if you find out your man hasnt been faithful and your ex was or has really changed maybe you vould fix your old relationship. but try be wise and make the right choice.
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reader, BondGirl72  +, writes (14 July 2012):
 You were hurt and insulted by what your boyfriend did, so while what you did was not right, it's understandable. If you think you have feeings for your ex again, I would ask yourself if he was just filling a void when you were together the one night, or if you really want him back. Obviously, there are reasons you broke up with him in the past. Someone familiar will always be appealing when you've been hurt, so think about this carefully. If you think you have feelings for you ex and than wasn't something that was just spontaneous, I would call him and see what he thinks. He may or may not still have feelings for you/want a relationship with you. As for your current boyfriend, I think you need to figure out which man you want in your life before you tell him anything. Maybe you can't bring yourself to trust your boyfriend again and you don't belong together anyway. Your boyfriend did admitt to texting the girl and apologized, so now you will have to admitt to kissing your ex if you want to keep your current boyfriend.
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