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writes:I met my boyfriend online, although we live locally to each other.We only saw each other a couple of evenings a week, but after three months he split up with me, telling me he wasn't feeling what he thought he should be feeling.I think 3 months is far too soon to fall in love with someone, especially when we hardly saw each other.Is there any way I can persuade him to give our relationship a bit longer? I felt we were only just beginning to get to know each other and really think the relationship has potential if he'd just give it a bit more time.Any advice?Thanks
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (4 September 2010):
 I am afraid CaringGuy is right.
If "it" isn't there,it isn't there- the magic, the special something, the wow ! factor. That hard-to-define something that makes you want to be just with that person.
You think that ,if you only could get more "exposure", he could get to know you better and appreciate you more, and you are probably even rigt, in a way... but he'd appreciate you more as a good friend and a nice person, than as a love interest.
He has been decent and corrrect in telling you he does not see potential for a story with you, as soon as he realized that. He has not tried to use you or to keep you around as a default option. Thank him mentally for hi8s honesty, and move on. Good luck !
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (4 September 2010):
He wasn't talking about falling in love. He didn't get that far. He was telling you that he wasn't feeling anything for the relationship, and basically didn't see it going further.
He's actually done you a very good thing, because he's not using you or keeping you around. He wants you to move on.
I don't think you can persuade him to give it more time. Men are usually quite quick when it comes to developing certain feelings for women. We fall in love far more quickly than women. If this man said it wasn't feeling right, then the relationship will go no further.
You need to let him go. He's just not going to move forward at all, and you'll waste more time and hurt yourself. Listen to what this man has said. Don't ignore it and think with more time it will work out. He's said it's over.
Be brave and move on.
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