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male
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi, first time poster and I just wanted to ask for some opinions and hints.I met this girl in the summer while we were swimming for a local club and immediatly realized that she was beautiful, but I felt she didn't know it.I quickly began to chat with her about her classes for the upcoming school year because my coach told me that she would be going to my school. We traded jokes and it more or less ended with me giving her a list of movies that I had recommended to her after she said I should.After the school year started she just sat in the quad with her 3-4 friends, 2 of whom I know and am partial friends with. I also noticed that she was talking to the school therapist whom I also talk to, we almost go everyday possible. After swimming picked back up her and I started to talk a little more and kinda play around more and more, but when I was about to ask her out to lunch so we could talk and get to know eachother, I see she's having a stressful time, and when I ask her about it she says that she had alot on her mind.After all this I could tell that she was just trying to dismiss answering the question but she did admit that she was in a funk, in past experience they tend to make an excuse like being tired or that nothings happening at all.I'm writing this to ask if anyone thinks that there is anything there or if I still have to keep laying the ground to create something. Reply to this Question
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (4 September 2010):
Hi there. It's hard to know and probably way too early to tell anyway. Well certainly, she doesn't dis-like you, so that's a good start.
You just need to get to know each better before you start thinking about whether to get into girlfriend/boyfriend relationship type stuff.
You are both still very young. There's plenty of time.
So just for the moment, be happy to be friends first and see how you get along with each other generally. Find out what things you have in common with each other - music, likes and dislikes, interests and hobbies, tv shows, movies etc. and just see how it all pans out over time. All relationships start from being friends, and then if it's going to happen, over time it will develop into a more meaningful relationship. However, it can't be forced to happen any sooner than it's meant to.
In the meantime, just enjoy whatever time you are in each other's company and be happy and have fun.
Take care and best wishes.
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