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writes:Hi everyone.Im looking for some honest opinions on my situation.I recently started talking to this great guy by chance on a popular gaming website.Just in a matter of a couple days we have really hit it off..it was an immediate spark i guess you could say.By choice,i would rather things not get too serious.Hes in another state and i dont think i can do the long distance stuff.Ive done it before and it really takes its toll on your emotions,i want somebody i can see and be with physically whenever i want.Hes so charming,and truly a great character.we joke around and have so much fun chatting...but im worried because i dont want this to go too far.I dont want another long distance relationship.But i can tell that he really is into me....i mean a LOT.And i find myself flirting back,even if i try to hold back a little bit.Should i just relax and let it go wherever it goes.....or should i speak up about how i feel about the possibility of a relationship.At this point,im worried my emotions will soon get involved and i wont follow what i know is best for me.And then id set myself up to be miserable because i couldnt see him often.Im very scared at even the thought of another long distance romance.I do like him though.If he were closer,id date him in a heartbeat.So do i follow my heart or my brain?
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reader, wendie dee  +, writes (15 November 2008):
 Hi! what a dillemma to be in,sounds like you really like this guy, to be honest unless your prepared to move away or he is, i can't really see this relationship working. I also feel the longer you leave it the harder it will become.
You obviously don't want to hurt him, so i would suggest you tell him how you feel, and suggest you just stay friends, and see how it all goes,who knows what the future holds.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2008): I am in a long distance relationship, and you are right, it does take it's toll! My guy is almost 4,000 miles away. I live in Phoenix, AZ and he lives in Lagrange Maine! I visited him in June, and he came here in September. We are talking about marriage and I am probably moving there in April. It has been very difficult! And as recently as tonight, as I talked to him, I began to cry. It's like torture being so far away from the one you love!
So, if you already know the obstacles and pitfalls of a LDR, then back off while you still can. It's difficult at my age, next to impossible at your age. I don't think I could've done it at your age!! I wish you luck no matter what you decide!
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reader, hopelessly_lost +, writes (15 November 2008):
 honestly, just be friends
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