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writes:im mad about this guy that i was seeing briefly a while back. we stopped speaking though really and would only see each other very occasionally. but the thing is i can't get him out of my head..and its been like this for a while now. i'll think he wants nothing to do with me and then he'll text me out of the blue wanting to meet up or just to chat. but when i do go and see him and everything seems ok..it'll go back to the way it was with the brief occassional encounters. i don;t understand it. at the beginning..when we met..he ws the one who was very full on, wanting to see me evryday and making so much effort for me. he even said he loved me which i shook off as he was quite drunk when he said it. i don't know how he could change from this perfect guy to what seems like a player literally overnight. does anyone have any ideas as to why his behaviour changed so rapidly..and does there seem any hope for us. i really want things back the way they were..any ideas how i could achieve this?? thanks. x
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reader, epifanatical  +, writes (6 September 2008):
 welcome to the wonderful world of men !! From a personal experience.. men are just weak.. they tell you all sorts of things and just to gratify some twisted emo issue they have.. sorry folks i may seem a lil bitter the way im comin across.. but this is just my experience.. i was literally promised the world with a guy and then he it turned out he only wanted to use me.. so sad for him.. i would advise before you get dragged in any further and possibly wind up hurt is to step away, look for the deeper signs they are all there in front of you (you took the time to write this) so dont let your feelings get in the way. think logically.. if he really wants you dont you think HE would of made a greater effort? dont make it easy for him sweetee to make out you are always there.. believe me this is the emo trip they are looking for.. you deserve way better..i hope it works out either way.. best of luck :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2008): You know, its not unusual when you first meet someone new for them (and you to be really very "into" one another and wanting to get together all the time.BUT the more time you spend together, and get to know each other, it can and does sometimes turn out that you don't really have too much in common. Maybe your ideas about life, about going out and having fun, are different. Perhaps he/she displays traits you didn't notice, and you find he/she isn't so perfect, after all.This happens, unfortunately, and is part of life. When it does, one or the other of you tends to back off and not want to meet up quite so often.This might very well be why he is a lot more distant now. If so, sounds as if he's happy to see you once in a while, but does not want to take things any further.It really is better to find this out NOW - after you have only dated for a short time. It is true that if a guy really wants to be with you, he'll do everything in his power to bring it about. Unfortunately, this man isn't making that kind of attempt. Which means there really is not anything you can do to have things go back to what they were in the beginning. The real test of a relationship is when the infatuation has worn off and you get to see who each other really are, and find out whether there's real compatibilty. Often you DO find you like the other person very well, and can accept him/her "warts and all" so to speak.Sorry.
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reader, Belle De Jour +, writes (6 September 2008):
 i think the only thing u can do is to either txt him and say look i think we should talk bout everything or do the cold shoulder on him for a couple of months .. let him know how it feels for a change ... bt on the other hand .. he could of just been one of them guys who just likes to flirt with loads of girls and doesnt really mean anythng that he says , im sorry it not the best thing you want to hear but you wanted the truth out of everything .. i hope taht you sort it out and that the best comes for both of you
Belle xx
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