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writes:can someone please give me an opinion! i met this guy about 2 years ago through a friend, we only met like 3 or 4 times but i fancied the pants off him! then he randomly added me on msn about 2 months later and we got chatting! hes proper amazin and he really likes me, tells me all the time that he 'wants me' and wants to meet me n stuff, for like 18 months now we've been talkin on msn and textin, we talk about EVERYTHING! hes 20, and im 16, were both virgins, we both talk about sex, sleepin together, yeah its just laughin and jokin about it but we both do kinda mean it, we have soppy convos but in a funny way lol, we kind of express our feelings but think were both just embarrassed so make it into a joke! well were plannin on meetin each other in january (he lives about an hour away on the train) we've had so many opportunities to meet up! and me been stupid has always ruined it as i have no self confidence! i know he tells me none stop that he likes me, and i know hes seen me before n stuff, even though it was years ago! but i wanna loose 2 stone before i meet him, im plannin on loosin it from now until january, ive already lost 6 pound but my friends go mad with me, theyre all like.. dont go loosin weight just to please him! theyre all like, dont be changin for him, if he likes you then he likes you for what you are! but im not doin it for him, i know he likes me! but i just have no confidence in myself and dont wanna let him down when i meet him! am i right in doin this?!x
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2008): Pish posh.With the obesity epidemic these days any excuse to lose weight is a good one.By all means go ahead and look pretty for your boyfriend. But deep down, do try and do it, even a little, for yourself.It is not anti-feminist to want to look good for a prospective partner. It is simple nature. You want to look your best to attrack a mate.Any person, man or woman, who tries to tell you that you shouldn't want or try to look good for that special someone is a fool and and emotional cripple.Go forth, and know him better, young lass.Flynn 24
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reader, epifanatical  +, writes (6 September 2008):
 who are you kidding sweetee?.. of course you are doing it for him.. why contradict yourself? if like you say it isnt an issue, why are you planning on losing the weight now before January? to lose weight to please someone else is just plain shallow.. and you create that feeling within yourself.. so let it go.. it sounds as if this guy is fun loving and kool and doesnt mind what you look like so why make an issue out of nothing? Your attitude is what will prevail, think that you are too heavy?.. well thats what you'll imagine everyone thinks.. think that your sexy??. well thats what everyone will think as well.. whatever you project is what people will see.... forget about what you see in the glossies sweetheart.. thats all fantasy.. guys love curves on a woman.. trust me.. its true.. as long as your fit and healthy curves are actually sexy on a woman.. there are tips you can learn to enhance your best features so maybe its a good idea to start to know how.. i wish you all the very best :)
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reader, michelleAKAmandi  +, writes (6 September 2008):
 The only answer to your question is:Lose the weight only for yourself. Not for or because of him. I think maybe you have been battling the fact that you are not happy or confident with the fact that you are worried about what he might think. If he thinks anything negative, then he is NOT worth your time. If you are doing it for yourself, then by all means... go for it.good luck in whatever decision you make.Take careMP
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reader, Belle De Jour +, writes (6 September 2008):
 it all depens on how much you way at the moment to loose weight .. and try dont to think that guys only like whats on the outside most of the time , cauz most guys are sweet and will love you for whats on the inside , i think what you could try and do for self confidance is when ever you feeling down or anything .. either think in your head , no im a strong beautiful woman , i am very pretty , great body , great friends and i love evrything about me .. or you could ring up a close mate and have a good laugh on the fone to try and cheer yourself up
hope it helps
Belle xx
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