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writes:HI, im 14 and i have curly hair that i hate and makes me look stupid. Also at school loads of people think im a geek and no one has ever fancied me:( all my friends are getting girlfriends and im not, i know im young but plz plz help!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (16 August 2007):
 Congratulations hun.
My advice would of been give it some time and a girl will come along who will fancy you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2007): FANTASTIC NEW! TAKE CARE AND I WISH YOU WELL
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reader, daemonkid +, writes (1 May 2007):
daemonkid is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi people,thanks so much for the help, it seems you are miracle workers as yesterday i got a girlfriend:)again thanks for the help
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reader, xxxsophxx +, writes (27 April 2007):
hello
i know how you feel i am also 14 and want a bf. in year 8 i felt ugly i was fat/ had no confidence etc...
so i wrote myself a list of everything i wanted to change.I then worked hard to accomplish these things and I felt much better in myself because I felt confident even when I was still working on it because I was working towards a goal.Ive slimmed out got a new look became fashionable and it has helped alot! but i also miss the old me! im not as close to my family any more and that upsets me.What I did was my way of coping with how I was feeling, if you think doing what I did would help I would strongely suggest it but it may not work for you. Just be yourself girls like lads that are flirty/kind/not bigheaded/good clothes/funny etc......Keep me posted on how its goin but remember no matter what you do be true to yourself and if you decide to change still keep the qualities about your self you like! xx
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reader, Bling_babe +, writes (26 April 2007):
 Hello. I know how you feel I havn't had a boyfriend and all my friends have one. I try to remember that my time will come. And I should b my self and hopefully people will like me for who I am. Its hard but why dont you try talking to more girls, and one of them might like you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2007): This is a tough time, i know, my youngest is going through it right now. He has bright ginger hair, which he has just dyed black. He is 6ft and 15 and just wants to be like everyone else. I love him to pieces and hate watching him go through this. Just remember these days are short lived and you will be leaving school in a couple of year. Learn to love and accept just what you have, all of it! You are a bit young to be worrying about girls but i know it isn't easy. Try and relax. I bet you have a cracking personality and that will shine through. Be yourself. not easy but it will come in time.
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reader, lupa-k +, writes (24 April 2007):
High school really can be a cruel place (and I know that because I finished going back to one last year to teach!) What you have to remember is that other settings will not always have the same politics as the high school situation, and the 'in crowd' syndrome will not be so prevalent. In many walks of life its possible to find a niche where people respect you for being you.
And as long as you stick to being you, then relationships will work a lot better anyway, as there is no need to engage in deep acting or pretending to potential partners
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2007): Yeah, people thought I was a geek too in high school. It was refreshingly uncanny when I thought back on it when I got older. I wouldn't say no one fancied me, though I couldn't imagine why anyone would at the time. Mind you, I was everything that almost everyone detested in highschool.
I kept to myself because I didn't the crappy politics of HS. I wasn't 'cool' enough for the in-crowd that made the most noise. I wasn't 'nice' enough to the hongers that stuck to themselves speaking in loud tones and laughing like snorkling pigs. I wasn't weak enough for the supposed gangsters that wanted to bully me - I stood my ground let's just say, and they hated me with a passion.
Anyway, what I am getting at here is the obvious. I'm 28 now, and this is when the experience of dating and girls and life is at. What you find in HS, and what others do and point fingers and laugh at you and making you feel like you need some girlfriend at the souring age of 14 can be quite pressuring and tormenting to a degree, but it's like a pinch of salt compared to the jalapeño of being out of high school, out of college and university and into the ripe and bursting life of 20+.
In short, you don't need help with anything per se. What you need help with is low self esteem and wipe away the need to be approved by others around you. Think about that.
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