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writes:I'm 18, shes 19.we was best friend for four years before we got together.we got together and we broke up, but it wasnt long before we realised we cant do it without each other, and now we are back together again.we have our ups and downs as with anyone else.at the moment she isnt ready for sex.we want similar things in life.she does see herself with me serious long term, but doesnt wanna get her hopes up, same with me. she even would like to have my children.shes my first girlfriend, and same with her im her first boyfriend apart from a first school relationship.at my age, being realistic, what are the chances of lasting and marrying her? not forgetting this is not a normal relationship, she was me BEST friend before this, well she still is, but you know what i mean lol.Be Real with your answer, in your opinion and also if you have an experience that would be great too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2009):
When I started school at 4 I became best friends with a boy. We stayed best friends until we were 14. Then we became an item, we got married when we were 25, had two lovely daughters and we were so happy together and still would be, but sadly he died suddenly 8 years ago he was only 47. I still love him with all my heart and his still my best friend and soul mate. Even though his no longer with me.
So from my personal experience I say go with the flow, and good luck to you both x
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2009): I am the last male anon again. I want to clarify again that I was NOT telling you to pressure her for sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2009): I can't believe I'm saying this, but the majority of girls would be having sex with you if they really loved you that way by now. I'm not saying all girls, just the majority of them.
I still do not think you should ever pressure her like this for sex. But honestly that's what I think this time. A 19yo virgin who is in a very long-term relationship with an equal aged guy? Usually it's a 13yo girl getting pressured into sex by a 23yo dirtbag after knowing him 2 weeks, not what you are describing.
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reader, Auntie Marilyn +, writes (9 November 2009):
I think there are two issues here, your ages and the sexual aspect. Most women of nineteen in a loving relationship would feel they were 'ready for sex' unless there were religious or other barriers. Is it possible that your girlriend sees you as a friend she would hate to lose rather than a lover and future husband? It seems that you have been very patient and loving about this, which is to your credit, but the question does need to be answered beore you make a final commitment.
About your ages, there is no knowing when we will meet the right person, and many lonely people in their thrirties and forties wish they had not given up on an early love. If you commit yourselves now, you will have to face many trials and temptations, but you will learn from each other and if you are willing to do this, you have every chance of success.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2009): I was 21 and my husband was 19 when we met and got together. We have three kids together now. I don't think age has any baring on relationships. Remember, age is only a number.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2009): Well, in my experience, my ex was like that(first proper GF)However, towards the end she took a 90 degree turn :Dwere still good friends though =] So friendship could last if it really does mean something..
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