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anonymous
writes:I've been going out with my girlfriend for going on 2 years now but somthing's not right at all. At first sex was fine and wasn't an issue but now she dosen't seem interested in it at all. We still get on really well and are very much in love but we haven't had sex in 8 months and it seems like I'm the only one interested in it. She keeps making excuses every time I advance and I'm starting to get totally depressed about the whole thing. What should I do?
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reader, Uncle Trev +, writes (28 July 2007):
You must explain your feelings to her and try to work this one out together. If she is not willing to do this or not willing to be more understanding of your needs then it may be time to start looking elseware.If you are both very much in love then I shouldn't imagine there would be too many problems in talking about this and coming up with some solutions between the pair of you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionshes 19, we dont live together and she isnt religious.sex for me is fun way of stress relife and is also a way to show affection. for me sex is a quite intimate act when doing it with some one you care about.
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reader, skye +, writes (28 July 2007):
 Could your girlfriend be worried about something? Did you both have a pregnancy scare before she became distant sexually? You say you still love her and the other aspects of you relationships are fine, so this is worth fighting for. If she has concerns about contraception, money, family or health issues, try your best to help her work them out. Speak to to her and try to get to the bottom of this problem. Let her know that you still care for her and want to be initmate with her. Im sure that with love and support you can both get through this.
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reader, Butterflyfly +, writes (28 July 2007):
 It sounds like platonic love... she probably feels she knows you too well or she's got all she could out of the relationship with you. maybe you need to spice things up and help her see you with some new eyes.. think about what she likes and surprise her!Also it could be that she isnt that much into you anymore , but still feels emotionally attached to you as a friend. I know from my experience when i'm off someone is because someone else has taken the place in my mind.... Do you guys have some unresolved issues? this is a communicaton problem, maybe something happened in her world that she cant tell you because it would probably hurt you? have you ever asked her why she is like that? she might only need some time off but keeping you hanging on like that without a definite answer is quite cruel.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2007): 8 months, after giving sex, and then taking it away is unfair and unloving thing to do.
How old is she? Are you living together? Is religion/faith a part of her decision?
What does sex mean to you, why should two people engage in it and when?
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reader, qt4life223  +, writes (28 July 2007):
comfront her about it and maybe she will also tell you the reason why she hasn't been too into it lately. Maybe something is bothering her. Just discuss this issue with her and tell her your emotions about it.
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