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writes: I am 25 and not sure about sex. I am still not ready to take that extra step and actually have sex. I have had two serious relationships so far and thankfully they have been with men who respected me enough to wait. I am still with one of the guys but although I feel comfortable with him I just cannot bring myself to have sex with him. I want to have sex. I think about it a lot. But I quite bring myself to do it with the man that I am with. What does this mean? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey everyone, thanks for the responses. I have been taking some time to really think about this and have decided to wait until I am ready. To ffogallilly and urban king, it was nice to know of people who had waited until around about the same age as me. I wanted to ask if you guys were still with that same person? Did you wait until you were married?To Advice2Giveu- I totally understand, up until recently I knew without a shadow of a doubt that I was not ready and as a result never even thought about sex. It just was not an option. Now I FEEL like I am ready but not sure if I am with the right man. Again, thank you all for your responses
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reader, ffogalilly  +, writes (18 April 2010):
There is nothing wrong with waiting to have sex, I did not have sex for the first time, until I was 28.
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reader, urbanking99  +, writes (17 April 2010):
I waited until I was 26 before I made love for the first time. I did not just consider it as sex, and it was with a woman I wanted to be with. You'll both just know when it is the right person.In the meantime just go out and enjoy life!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (17 April 2010):
No. The worst thing to do would be to lose it to someone for the sake of it. Keep trying to find the right guy.
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reader, Jo Rocks  +, writes (17 April 2010):
 You must have been initially saving yourself for marriage. Perhaps you are not ready to have sex with this man because of devout religious values. If that is the case stick to your guns and wait. Sex at any age should be a choice that is made when the lady in question is truly ready for it.
Maybe part of you is worried about being let down, or that he will leave you afterward. Listen to your heart if and when you are ready remember that it's ok to enjoy sex and that sex is not dirty but a beautiful act of sharing ones bodies when you are in love.
Great sex with a partner will not happen over night. It takes time to get to know your body to explore what is pleasurable and what is not. You will also have to learn the art of communication so that you can verbalize this to your partner. Don't feel ashamed. The more comfortable you are with your partner the better the sex will be.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question
Caring Guy, thank you for replying.
But at 25 am I not too old to keep waiting?
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (17 April 2010):
I think it means this isn't the right guy for you. You only say that you're comfortable with him, nothing more than that. I think you're right to wait for the right man. I'm not sure this is the man for you.
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