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writes:i don't have a problem getting guys but i have a major problem keeping them. At first everythings always going really well and i'm this funny interesting girl.. and then when i realise the guy actually really likes me i freak out, i don't know what it is, but it's like the thought of not being single scares me. i turn into this idiot and end up being really distant and giving all these mixed signals when i don't mean to. I don't want that to happen with this new guy, but i'm already starting to do it.. help? Reply to this Question
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reader, usa31  +, writes (31 May 2009):
That totally happens to me too, don't worry, you're not alone, I have like 5 friends who freak out to.
ANd it's not because of the guy. I actually really liked him.
That feeling, like you feel great when you're with him but when you're away you just can't stand it. And you just loose all senses.
Been there done that. I think relaxing is the best way. But i need help too.
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reader, Uraz  +, writes (1 January 2008):
 'but it's like the thought of not being single scares me'I think you have a serious problem and the above quatation explains why. But why are you afraid of not being seingle again? Do you have this obsession, addiction of being available and seen single and get all the possible attention, interets of all the men in the world? is it this secret thought of keeping all the possibilities open and thus not entering into committment?You can one man at a time (normally) and you have to find mr right guy one day and stick to him, so get over it, stop being weird and get a life...
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reader, Dr Vendetta +, writes (1 January 2008):
 well you clearly have commiment issues. because you've been hurt in the past so once you feel its getting to that serious stage you try and self sabotage the relationship before its even had a chance to flurrish.
maybe you should explain to the guy you're with. if you can't be open and honest with the guy you're with then.. wtf are you doing in a relationship?
a friend of mine is like this. she tells me everything about her. and i mean Everything.
personal stuff.. that the bf should know. instead she lies about it... why? because she's worried of what he'll think or say. she told me alot of private infomation which she is ashamed of. i don't judge her for it. and it doesn't bother or affect me.
if you can't be open with the guy you're with then you're looking at the wrong guys.
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