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writes:OK, I hate to ask, but we are at a loss here. I love my wife very much, she loves me very much, and we only seem to have one problem,My wife and I get Very Excited with each other, and we play and get really into things, but she is having a problem having an orgasm.It seems that she is really ready and very excited, and very wet, and as we continue, she seems to get to a point where it stops, and as much as she is very excited, she cannot get to the finish point.She is very concerned that something is wrong with her, and I as well am worried.She has had 1 child and we have had this problem for a while now.What could be the problem? What can we do to change this? Is this a normal problem?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2009): The important thing is to not turn this into a big serious orgasm hunt, trying at all costs to make her come. This puts pressure on things, makes sex feel like an accomplishment or a chore. It only feels worse when she doesn't come because it feels like a failure. I've been in this situation myself.My suggestion would be to encourage her to masturbate by herself. Get some books on the subject, on female anatomy and orgasms etc, and let her take her time, alone, playing and exploring herself. Slowly, you can come back into the picture. Once she knows how to make herself orgasm, you can gradually take the reigns. This is a VERY COMMON situation to be in, and a perfect opportunity to let your wife know how supportive and understanding you can be. Try to rule out any physical problems by having her get a checkup at the doctors. It may also be psychological. But there is a vixen in there, somewhere. She'll emerge if you are patient :)
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reader, bobbles32  +, writes (30 March 2009):
 Have you tried focussing on her clit? Massaging her beforehand so she can relax? Incorporating toys into the bedroom? These things could help! If that's still not working, try blindfolding her, tell her to focus on what she's feeling! I know I find it hard to orgasm with my eyes open!
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