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writes:I was just wondering do you always miss your ex?. Like I broke up with mmy ex 4 years ago but at times i still miss him...Does this happen everyone and does this stay with you forever?
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (12 March 2012):
 Heck no,lol. Let enough time pass and when you bump into an ex, the most common reaction is " what was I thinking of ?! "
Well, actually, like helpquickly says, at times you may miss a person for a very long time, but it's not the same as wanting him back.
It's like, I don't miss him, I miss ME: I miss how I was in love, or happy, or enthusiastic, or horny, at the time when I was with that person. But I don't miss the person, only the sensation/ state of mind I got through him. And I know I can get the same feeling from another person, or even from a totally non-romantic cause or occasion.
Everybody is important but nobody is irreplaceable. 4 years is a long time to be stuck on a memory, and if you feel you are, it's because deep down you want to, you resist moving definitively on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2012): "I was just wondering do you always miss your ex?."
No, the one common trait my exes share is they are all individually and collectively eminently forgettable, that's why they're my exes.
"Like I broke up with mmy ex 4 years ago but at times i still miss him..."
If you still "miss him" after four years, then I suspect you're likely clinging to an unrealistic fantasy that never was.
"Does this happen everyone and does this stay with you forever?"
Never happened to me, and if it did I'd be over it by now. Four years is a long time to waste pining for a guy who probably never loved you and probably was just using you, which is probably why he's your ex.
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reader, helpquickly  +, writes (11 March 2012):
My ex was awesome so i still miss him sometimes. yes you can miss your ex, sometimes but that doesn't mean you're not over them right? or aren't you? i miss him but i dont want him back. do you want him back?
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reader, josephy  +, writes (11 March 2012):
 It has been four years and it still feels like yesterday. it stays
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reader, Uncle PJ  +, writes (11 March 2012):
 Have you been in a relationship since? Was this ex like your first 'love' or something other. It's natural to miss your ex when you haven't replaced them or haven't really moved on.
There are the certain conversations you have that are all about the ex but you don't ever say their name even though it's them you're thinking about.
You always relate things to each other so when you notice things you get taken back to the relationship and you end up reminiscing all the times you had with them.
It's definitely not unusual to still miss your ex if you haven't been able to move on and if he was your first then no you probably won't forget him. But once you find yourself in a relationship with someone else who makes you feel more than you ever have done, it should prevent you from missing them.
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