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writes:Hi, I'm kind of curious, I work in with a few woman and I not really after pulling them or sleeping with them at all, I've got someone else in my eye! However what I'm curious about it are women intimidted by an attractive male either at work or in general? I go to ask some of the gals at work a question, and they shy away from looking at me, or pretend to be typing, or quickly brush me off!? i speak to them in the same dignified manner as any other work mate with no labedo or any incinuations or anything and it gets really annoying! even at the tea machine when i say a polite good morning then quickly smile say it back and vacate the room? (not all just a few!) there is only one i can really have a joke and discussion about work and otherthings with! Btw im not a big headed arse, any thoughts? im just curious as it really has annoyed me that i just cant get on with my work, i need to work with these ppl, lol!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2009): Haha, I have to scroll down fast and not look at the other peoples answer or else I wont be able to give my honest opinion! So excuse me if I say some of the same things.
I would say "yes" some women are intimidated by an attractive male. For various reasons. Maybe some of them have crushes on you, or find it hard to be serious and not flirting with you, and thats why they shy away? Many wfind it difficult to talk to someone they find attractive, EVEN IF they are not interested in a relationship with them.
You do sound like a nice guy, so I dont think my second theory is correct, but anyways: a lot of good looking guys are very much into themselves. This causes them to act like ass hats. They are for most part shallow and only interested in themselves. I dont think you are this way, I surely hope not, but so many attractive men are. They just let it get to their heads. And so, women who have experience with these men, will try to avoid them. Usually they bring no good see?
Attractive women get the same responses though! I used to wonder too why guys wouldn't talk to me but shy away and I used to think that there had to be something wrong with me, even though I tried to be nice. Then I was told that it could be because of my looks, and that guys just get shy (this was in my late teens). This is still an issue though... Not easy to make friends when most people either think you are flirting with them or just wanna f.ck you.
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reader, texas_princess  +, writes (8 November 2009):
 Speaking just for myself personally, I have to say no. I appreciate a good looking man, and secretly enjoy the "eye candy" lol but I wouldn't call it intimidation... but more like sexual tension. Probably not much you can do about it short of skipping showers or becoming obnoxious~ lol good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2009): i do tend to feel nervous around guys I find very attractive or have a huge crush on. I sometimes find it hard to talk and my hands shake. So I would avoid that situation. If you are really attractive taht could be the case. Being beautiful is usually more of a curse than a blessing.Don't give up,in time they'll get used to you and you won't have such a big problem. Try relating to your cowerkers, maybe if you need something you'll get a better reply by sending them an e-mail so they won't feel intimidated by facing you, but might be happy to recieve an e-mail from the cute guy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSo, are you very attractive, do you think?- replyI,ve been told by some vry att. some others tell im ok looking, cute, fit, hot ect, i guess im not ugly based on these.. im just curious as to assertain if women do get intimidated by good looking men, not just speaking for myself, there is a guy at work I had this discussion with and we are curious!
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reader, natasia +, writes (8 November 2009):
 So, are you very attractive, do you think?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionsome are, some aint! depends, they might just think your secretly after some other pleasure by been nice!
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