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writes:Hi, some advbice/thoughts/opinions would be much appreciated, and I wat to get a variety of opinions too...ThanksThroughout this situation, bear in mine I am 16.Me and this girl have fallen in love. Technically we haven't hit it off yet (become item) due to other complications etc but we are in love. We tell each other we are in love all the time; everyday and in every text (there are ALOT of texts too...) etc. We do live far away from each other and miss each other alot but we know the spark is there. We have gone so far as saying we want to spend the rest of our lives together because we feel we are perfect for each other. Now, we are both realistic people and know about relationships and what can/mostly does happen with them, especially during teenage years, BUT being realistic, we both know what our hearts want. We hate not talking to each other, we care about each other and always wish the best for each other. We talk for hours every weekend (free calls, bear in mind we are 16- not enough money to do this during the week hehe...) and are always in contact. We have talked about having sex, but we are both mature enough to discuss it first, and have expressed our opinions on everything etc. We have talked alot is what Im saying.My question concerns falling in love at this age. Some would laugh at us and say u cant be in love yet, but are we being so stupid?I think we have sometyhing really special here and i know we both dont want to lose it.Are we being mature or immature?Advice please!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2007): I'm glad you liked the song :D I hope you two are very happy together xxx
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reader, Jenks 666 +, writes (13 August 2007):
Jenks 666 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks, you're all really cool and great!
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (12 August 2007):
 Hey there,
I don't think you're being immature in the least. In fact, I think you're more mature than most of the 16 year olds out there! You seem to be thinking VERY realistically and that is amazing.
I'm glad to see that both of you are very open about communicating. This is something that a lot of ADULTS aren't mature enough to do! So many adults can't talk openly about sex or their relationships. So kudos to you!
I absolutely think that you and this girl SHOULD make it official and become "an item". The only thing I would recommend is that you not move too fast. Sometimes dropping the L-bomb ("love") too early can make for trouble later... just enjoy being together and have fun really getting to know each other in a relationship. The love, the marriage, if you two are destined for it - then you'll be together for the rest of your lives! Why rush?
It sounds like both of you have your hearts invested in this and that the love is really there between you. Just save the "i love you"s for a little further into the relationship because it makes it that much more memorable.
I think the two of you sound like a great pair. Have fun building up memories and a life together! You both sound very mature... and make sure you keep talking! That's the most important thing in a relationship (and especially in one with so much love in it like yours does).
xxIndia
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reader, RosesAreRed +, writes (12 August 2007):
 I don't think your being stupid at all. People can fall in love at any age, your being very mature about this, which I respect you for, enjoy the feeling of being in love, its the most wonderful feeling in the world. You will know when your in love, as it hits you when you least expect it.Good luck to you.
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reader, Jenks 666 +, writes (12 August 2007):
Jenks 666 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys and I have listened to that song alot, ALOT! HEHE, thanks very much! Great responses, any more from people out there???
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2007): P.S listen to a song called "Hey There Delilah" by Plain White T's. It's very nice and the lyrics might mean something to you. :D xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2007): Love has nothing to do with how old you are. Only you will know if you really are in love (trust me, you will know if you are) and nothing anyone says can take that away from you. Ignore anyone who makes fun of you or patronises you, they probably haven't been in love themselves. Some people have never been in love before but it's an incredible thing, where do you think all the songs come from? Just enjoy it! It doesn't always last forever as people change so make the most of the feeling for as long as it lasts and never forget how wonderful it feels. You are very lucky :D xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2007): I dont think you are stupid or immature. Ive been with my boyfriend a long time now, we got together when we were 16 and fell in love. now we are speaking about having children and gettin married. Not yet, but in th future when we are older. it can work.
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