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writes:I'm a virgin and was wondering if i have sex without a condom for the first time what are the chances of me getting pregnant? Because my boyfriend has had sex before and wants to do it without a condom because he says condoms don't let him enjoy it, and he said that doing it the first time I'm less likely to get prgnant.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2008): yes you can get pregnat it doesn't matter how many times you did it .so where a condom.and tell your boyfriend it is not about him feeling anyting it is about him feeling anything.you can get an std and pregnant.
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reader, carebear  +, writes (6 April 2008):
 LJ001Please don't apoligise for myself and Bad Voive we are BOTH ADULTS and sorry if you find our answers harsh, but they are TRUE.This is a BIG DEAL we are trying to save this girl from making a BIG MISTAKE andI think my advcie actually got through to her. I hope she will take it not just for this question, but also not listen and believe everything she hears from b/f's and peers at this age as unfortunatly they a misinformed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2008): Guys what happened here? Come on, she asked a question and you're supposed to give her answers, not call things bullshit and call her bf thick. It's a common misconception. I apologise to all the people that did actually answer properly, but I also apologise to the poster for some pretty harsh answers from the aunts.
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reader, carebear +, writes (6 April 2008):
Your welcome dear hope you got the point i was trying to make as this is a big deal.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for all of your concern =] I'm not planning on having sex right now. But i decided that me and my boyfriend should talk about sex and personal boundries early on in the relationship just to get it out of the way. And he has only had sex with one other girl a few times. We were just making observations, were both new to this. And we have both been homeschooled so we never went through sex ed. thank you for all your imput even though some of you said some things that were quite uncalled for.
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reader, carebear +, writes (5 April 2008):
Poster
You have access to the internet, do yourself a favour look up SEX EDUCATION! although I am sure they taught you this in school NEVER HAVE SEX WITHOUT PROTECTION!Also you are UNDERAGE!DUMP the b/f he's THICK! you have a BRAIN use it wisely are you going to beleive everything he says?
Educate yourself and be responsable thats all lecture over.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2008): Your boyfriend is lying to you so that he can use you for sex before he dumps you. Quite a catch you've got there.
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reader, x-kitycatlok-x +, writes (5 April 2008):
 You are just as likely to get pregnant whether it is your first time or your thirtieth time. If he REALLY will not use a condom, go with him to get tested for STDs and if he's clean then go on the pill. This should stop pregnancy. If, however, he is not clean then you will have to use a condom.
If this guy is trying to pressure you and lie to you so you don't have to use a condom, he is not worth it.
Wishing you the best.
xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2008): You will be the first child that I give advice to and I hope to not have to do it again.
DON'T FALL FOR THIS BULLSHIT!
This guy will say anything to get into your panties adn betwen your legs. Everyone KNOWS tht you can get pregnant ANYTIME you have sex! And he knows this too. He could have a STD/disease and once he infects you, he can then say that you have to be with him, because you already have it and no one else will want you or he could be trying to get you pregnant intentionally. Please don't listen to this guy at all. I would rather you wait till you are a little older to have sex, but I know that will fall on deaf ears.....protect yourself and don't listen to this dumb dude
only thing is...I don't really think he is dumb....I believe he knows exactly what he is doing and that he is putting you in a trick bag...he has an ulterior motive and is trying to play upon your intelligence. DON'T DO IT!
BadVoice
Wash. DC
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2008): Unfortunately, he is not at all correct. There is no lesser chance of you becoming pregnant just because you are a virgin... If he made that statement, might he possibly be thinking about finishing inside of you? Just because he's not a virgin, you can't let him pressure you into practicing unsafe sex. If you were to practice unsafe sex and he were to ejaculate while still inside of you, former virgin or not, you will have a very large chance of getting pregnant. The morning after pill shouldn't be an alternative either, although it is used in cases of ripped condoms and such it can cause hemorrhaging (and may have other side effects). The doses of hormones in these pills are also not a safe alternative... So either go on the pill, or think about pregnancy and STDs (especially if he is not a virgin) and practice safe sex. You won't regret it.
He is probably using excuses to get you to have sex with him without a condom, but remember, if he does care about you then he will put your safety before his pleasures.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2008): Jeez honey, get away from this guy. Is he an idiot? I know, and I'm sure he does too, that you can get pregnant from sex whether it is your first time or not. The risks are exactly the same honey - and if he's had sex before, he could have an STD so get him tested and USE A CONDOM!! When he says he doesn't enjoy it, I'm sure he does, but condoms can often reduce the sensation a little bit. Maybe tell him to try a different brand of condom.
If you guys really really don't want to use a condom, then get on the pill. Seriously, otherwise you're more than likely going to end up pregnant. Is that what you want? No.
And I apologise in advance for saying this, but I still believe you're too young to be getting into these things. Please, I know myself, wouldn't you rather save it for someone who you're REALLY in love with, and who wouldnt even THINK about doing it without a condom!? He's putting you at risk and doesn't even care. What sort of guy is that?
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