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writes:Hey everyone.. im just back from my hols and my older sister invited her boyfriend as well.. and i think he likes me.. im not sure..Okay so here are a few of the things he did..When ever i sat beside him he would always smile at me..and when he asked me was i walking to the pub and i said yes and he goes "yay" and winked at me..and when my sister went to the bathroom he goes Name_ your gorgeous..and he kept putting his hand on my leg..and when they had a fight he asked me for a hug..and he kept hugging me..and when i went crab fishing with him and my sister..he kept putting his arm around me..and he was asking what kind of guys do i go for ..And when i was watching tv he would sit beside me and lay his head on my shoulder..and he had his hand on my leg..my sister doesnt know..and hes 20 years old.i think im starting to like him now..but i cant cos hes my sisters bf.please help..is he giving off signs that he does? Reply to this Question
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (13 August 2010):
 You are showing him that you approve by letting him do these things: touch your leg, rest his head on your shoulder, put his arm around you. If you didn't approve, you wouldn't let that behavior continue.
He tested the touch barrier. Once he broke it and you didn't object, that was a sign to him that he could continue to push the boundries.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni like him but i dont show it at all..hes the one who is making the moves
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reader, dirtball +, writes (13 August 2010):
Why only you? Because you've been receptive to all of his advances so far. Guys can tell when someone is into them most of the time. He's obviously attentive to that and using it to his advantage. Your twin is dealing with him correctly, not getting involved in any way that could damage your other sister's relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe doesnt do any of these things to my twin,so why me?
he never hugs my twin sister or do any of those things that he does to me to her.
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reader, LisaSE  +, writes (13 August 2010):
 It's very hard to deal with someone who is with a sibling at the moment. I have a rough sketch in my head that I'll share with you of how I would handle it.
"You know, you're a really nice guy. My SISTER has pretty good taste. Speaking of which, how are you two getting along?" Try to keep bringing up the fact that he is your SISTER's bf and see how he acts. Does he get defensive or evasive?
Either way, it might make things sticky between you and your sis. However, if he keeps it up... I think you need to let your sister know.
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reader, Cloverfield  +, writes (13 August 2010):
 Yeh, the mans a predator & is looking to bag the whole family. Your sister needs to know who she's dating!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2010): It doesn't really matter if the signs are there, this is your sisters boyfriend. Ok say they split up, would you like it if your sister went out with a ex of yours?
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reader, dirtball +, writes (12 August 2010):
Yeah, he was crossing a line there. I see two interpretations of his actions, both plausible in my book.
First, he has a thing for you. Since he was fighting with your sister, he decided to redirect his attention to you. You were probably giving off some obvious signals that you were liking what was happening, he picked up on that and used it to his advantage.
Second, he views you as a little sister. He was being friendly because he loves your sister and wants you to like him too. He pictures a life with your sister, and therefore, you are like a sister to him now.
Then again he could be a creep and is trying to get both of you at the same time.
No matter what, the family bond you have with your sister is worth more than any boy. If you love your sister, even a little, you will not pursue anything with her boyfriend. Even if they break up, he's off limits. You'd do well to forget any feelings you think you have for him.
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