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writes:How many Christians who go to church on a regular basis do you think are saving themselves for marriage these days?
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reader, smartazngirl  +, writes (25 October 2008):
 I'm Catholic, but it's a branch of the Christian religion. I'm saving myself for marriage. I'm 14, still young but, I know that I will save myself for marriage because I'm not interested in any guys at my school or anywhere else (so many gangsters!) and no guys are attracted to me. I'm a tomboy and often wear baggy clothes, so I guess that turns off guys. But at least I know that those guys only goes for the looks. So I'm happy that I don't need to waste time on such a stupid relationship that only started off from physical attraction. To me, I think personality and emotional attraction should be first, then physical attraction comes in second. I honestly think that most relationship started from physical attraction never works, but there are some acceptions. So yeah, I hope that answers your question.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2008): Quite a few(:To be honest, i'm one of them.And it makes me so happy to think that i'll have no leftovers for my husband, just all of me.Having sex before marriage, is just sinful plessure. And in culture today, it's mistakingly come to be somewhat of a solution. For example, thinking it will bring you closer to the person you "love". But if thats truly the case, and say your going to marry that person, i'm sure they can wait a little longer.From a Christ Followers point of view, or atleast from mine, everything you do should be glorifying to God (and nobody is perfect) and waiting until your married, does just that. No leftovers, just all of you. God rewards you with a beautiful marrige, and a beautiful sex life. I even have a ring, that will one day be replaced with my wedding ring, but until then, I wear it on my hand proudly. I even get made fun of for it sometimes, but hey, it's worth it to me.Sorry if I got a little off topic(:it just all seemed to come out.haha.Have a good day(:
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reader, no_issues +, writes (1 July 2008):
 Same as there ever have been:
more than you think, but fewer than pretend to be.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2008): Did you see the statistic by ChiRaven in this post. (http://www.dearcupid.org/question/young-people-having-sex.html) Makes you think dosen't it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2008): There are some churches that place a large part of the teachings on keeping your virginity and getting married. The concentrate heavily on telling young people not to have sex of any kind, not even themselves. Some churches even teach the idea that sex and lust are bad, and you can sin for even thinking about it. They keep saying this over and over again, untill young people get very afraid. I hate this type of psychological bullcrap, because it can cause some serious mental damage. Do you know that there are some women who are so afraid of sex, that they can never enjoy it because they have been told it's wrong.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question shelleyanne- yeah i think it is unfair if a church tries to pressure people into making that pledge too.
I never knew churches did that until reading your reply and another posters.
So do some/all churches try to get teenagers to make that pledge? Do they get older members of there church such as people in there 20's do it too?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2008): Lots of people who intend to save it will hold out until several months or a couple years into their first "real" relationship when they're older than high school. Then it's usually gone.
Don't start thinking that nobody ever saves it anymore. People do, and not just girls. But they're EXREMELY few and far between by your 20s.
And after a certain age they're just not talking about it.
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reader, shelleyanne +, writes (30 June 2008):
 I don't think many people are saving themselves these days. About four years ago I attended a youth group at my best friend's church and we all took a pledge of chastity until marriage. My best friend has since had sex with two people, me with one, and I can tell you that the majority of those that also took the pledge are no longer virgins either.
The thing is, the whole theory that "love waits" is just fine if that's what you want to do. But for me love waited five months after I started dating my boyfriend of 3 and a half years. The fact is, people will do what they feel comfortable doing, and I personally think it's wrong that churches attempt to pressure you into feeling wrong about expressing your sexuality with someone that you love and trust.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionsolver- i never thought it did, was simply just curious.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2008): I really don't know the answer to that, but I personally don't think it is a good idea. I don't think that it is a good idea to just jump into bed with anyone except one who you know well and have affection for either. I believe that it is good to have sex before marriage with someone who you are falling in love with because a lot can be learned about a pertner in bed. Things like how caring of your feelings is he/she, how affectionate is he/she, does he/she care more about your enjoyment of sex more than their own. People tend to drop their acting when in the passion of sex and show their true selves.
I have read a few stories on other forums where someone waited until marriage or waited until they had been together for 2 or 3 years to have sex for the first time and then found out that they were not sexually compatable. Things like one of the partners had no sex drive and left the other feeling unloved and wanting to get out of a relationship that they had put so much effort into. I'm sure that there are many that are just the opposite, but I personally don't think that the risk is worth it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOh wow that was really interesting ChiRaven.
Thanks for the replies :)
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reader, ChiRaven +, writes (30 June 2008):
 Huh? You mean they still do that?
No, seriously, one recent study showed that of a group of teens who took pledges to remain virgins until marriage, about 12% actually did so. Now that was among people who took public pledges to "save themselves." My guess (and this is just a guess) is that probably not more than 10% of the church-going Christian population actually makes such a pledge, and the same studies show that about 99% of the people who did NOT take such a pledge had sex before marriage, so my best guess would be that something like 1% to 2% of Christians are actually doing that. These are statistics from the U.S.
On the other hand, although it may not stop them, those pledges apparently DO slow things down a little, as the pledgers reportedly had their first sexual experience about 18 months later than the others.
By the way, my statistics came from
http://www.kaisernetwork.org/daily_reports/rep_index.cfm?DR_ID=22603
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reader, XxAnGelXxx  +, writes (30 June 2008):
 I've never come across someone in Britain who believes in saving themselves for marriage. Personally I don't believe in it either, but then again i'm no christian or anything, I don't believe in religion full stop. :)
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