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writes: I have small breasts and I'm sick of just having to put up with men prefering big. I've been teased my whole life, and I doubt they'll grow, I'm way past puberty. Even ex boyfriends have been jerks about it, but of course they all come up with "oh honey I was just joking, don't be upset, I love you not your boobs". Well, I'm a sexual woman, I don't like being with a man who can't really appreciate what I have.What irks me the most is when I've talkes about these issues with other men, be them friends or ex boyfriends, they've all been like "Well, women all prefer a big penis, so men can have their preferences too, we like big breasts, just deal with it". Like it was my fault that SOME women have made these guys feel insecure. In my experience, most women don't even care about penis size. I never have, and I've never made any guy feel bad about his penis, on the contrary I always try to make them feel the best because I KNOW first hand what it's like to be put down about the size of a sexual characteristic. But it's like men feel entitled to put down women like me, like it was my fault that other women supposedly prefer big penises. It's unfair and I'm sick of it, because whenever a guy has made me feel bad about their size, and I tell them on that, they're like "Well, you women aren't any better, you all want a huge dick, so get over it". Just 'cause I'm a woman doesn't mean I want a big penis.I'm tired of having to put up with the obsession both men and society have with big breasts. In my country there's this music festival thing going on, and they have this "fashion police" kind of show, and all they care about is who wears the most cleavage because in my country around 95% of female celebrities have implants, HUGE implants! It's like they're on "cleavage watch" it makes me sick!Of course guys enjoy this and think that the bigger the better, and they think that because supposedly all women want huge penises, that they're entitled to ogle and appreciate big breasts even if it makes smaller breasted women like me feel bad! I feel so ugly, and like I said I'm tired of it because even since I hit puberty I've been teased about this, and I don't think I deserve all the put downs. I'm so close to going for breast augmentation, but it scares me, especially because my breasts won't feel real again. I like how they feel now. And besides penis size is not the same as breast size! The penis is concealed all the time, so guys don't have to feel like they're constantly being judged on first impressions. It's more like vagina size and tightness which is another worry we have.I guess I have some questions about this, like 1) Do all guys think that because "all women want big dicks" they're entitled to rub their preferences on their small chested girlfriend's face? 2) Are there honestly guys who're immune to the media's crap and who honestly prefer A cups over DDs? 3) How can I find such a man, IF they really exist? 4) Should I go for implants? If no, then HOW HOW HOW can I learn to love my body as it is and not care about men's preferences and the stupid media? I try to not care and ignore it and appreciate what I have but it's so difficult with all the messages I receive daily from TV or men's comments and attitudes.I swear this is getting me so depressed :( I don't want a guy to just accept my breasts but lust after big ones, I want a guy who'll think that mine or any other A cups are BETTER than big ones... I mean, I'm kinda grossed out by big penises (no offense), so there must be guys who're grossed out by big breasts right?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2012): This post makes me sad and feel sick and I CAN RELATE.Ive been A cup all my life. I struggle to love my boobs, I feel like I get bashed about them everyday by the media. ive been fortunate enough to never get comments about them except for one from one ex whom I dumped. I have an amazing BF of 1 year now who loves them and appreciates them and makes me feel sexy with them. Which I am! And which I deserve.I agree with the points you make. It makes me sick that society is so superficial about certain looks and types and stereotypes of people. its so repressive to everyone of every gender, race etc. Body type in particular. Even girls with big boobs get shit. Big boobs even are naturally hanging, flopping and dont look like the stupid fake round pushed up balls we see everywhere. The ideal images in the media do NO ONE justice. All in all they cut into the self esteems of girls everywhere. Guys too. And turn guys into shallow d-heads. And girls into judging, competitive b*tches.Please dont let this get to you. Love your body because the media always bashes it and so do people in general- at least you yourself can love it.There will be decent men out there, I found one for me and Im not letting go. It seems youve had shit experience with guys and people. Make better friends and date better guys. If any even jokingly makes comments about you having small boobs- cut them down, stand up for yourself. Especially if its a guy youre dating- let him know INSTANTLY that youre no longer dating. I would make tht a strict rule tbh. Any guy that would put down a part of my body/looks I would instantly friendzone or just cut into him.Love small boobs because the media hates them. Defy the rules. F*ck the media and all its BS it throws at us.We have small boobs. But so f*cking what? Theyre pretty, perky, soft, cuddly, lovely, beautiful, sexy. They suit our naturally smaller/slimmer in general body types. They never did anything wrong. we were born with them. They are a gift to us- an attribute tht in this time and society sadly it is fashionable to bash them and label them as undesirable, unwomanly, unpreferred etc. And the many ignorant fools that live in this world follow the BS. But SMART, IMMUNE people DO EXIST. You just need to find them. Distance yourself from dumb, shallow, brainwashed fools. Find smart, confident friends and people that believe in being REAL and real beauty and beauty in difference, variety.Move cities or countries if you have to.Dont give up hope. Stand up for small boobs. For real bodies. for real beauty. F*ck the media's rules and BS.
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reader, Melissa helps  +, writes (22 February 2011):
Hey as you can see I am a girl and that my opinion won't help on what guys like but you are lucky to have small breasts. I am 15 and my breasts cause me pain all the time and I hate it. I developed early and this meant that I have struggled with the weight for a very long time in my opinion anyway. I am a size 34dd and I really do hate my breasts, the guys who hang around me like me because of them and don't know the real me. They are all people that are sex crazy aswell and want to sleep with me and put me in their trophy cabinet. Hey as you can see I am a girl and that my opinion won't help on what guys like but you are lucky to have small breasts. I am 15 and my breasts cause me pain all the time and I hate it. I developed early and this meant that I have struggled with the weight for a very long time in my opinion anyway.You will find real friends and boyfriends a lot easier to get. I have had one boyfriend. No other guy has asked me out. But I do consider myself quite popular I think they are a turn off
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reader, Illithid  +, writes (21 February 2011):
 I've never dated a girl larger than a large-A / small-B. I don't find D cups attractive at all. As the saying goes, "Anything more than a handful is a waste." Besides, too big means there aren't any attractive bras left (since they have to switch into heavy support), and the smaller ones don't sag nearly as much. Besides even all that, I don't want my girl's back to hurt.
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reader, Cupid Boy  +, writes (20 February 2011):
 Are you kidding? A-cups rule! I've always liked smaller ones way better. Not just saying that, I have said the same before in other online debates. It's just a much more elegant look. To me, the European standard of beauty (slim, elegant, small-breasted) is way more classy and appealing than the American one (blonde, curvy, big ass, big-boobed). Maybe it's a cultural thing. What country are you in?
Don't feel bad, look at some of the movie stars and models that have tiny breasts: Selma Blair, Kate Moss, Milla Jovovich, Kylie Minogue... You can still be a beauty icon despite having virtually no cleavage. Kate Moss never even needed a bra until she was 35 and still became the highest-paid supermodel. The world of high fashion modelling is filled with small chests. Lady Gaga and Emma Watson are not exactly well-endowed either. Ballet dancers, known for obsessively pursuing the "perfect body", also favour a small bust. Wouldn't you rather look more like a ballet dancer than a burlesque dancer?
Not sure what kind of guys you're associating with. But from what I've seen, the ones most into huge (not just ample) boobs seem to be the beer-swilling sports fans, rude truckers, and other neanderthals. The guys that go to Hooters on their lunch break from the construction site, or whistle at the bikini girls at car shows. Why should you care what they think?
Breast enlargement surgery is a terrible idea. I think slicing open your chest and shoving blobs of silicone inside will one day be seen like the foot-binding and neck-stretching in other cultures. Plus it gives the breasts a very unnatural look and destroys all feeling in them. Any surgery with anesthesia is serious. Why risk your life to replace elegant modest breasts with fake-looking abominations?
You've got to look around some more for guys with taste and class. Who think A-cups are far better than DD's. Because honestly, they are!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2011): Hey urm no we don't all think that women want big penis' also I'm not joking when I say this but large breasts make me feel uncomfortable and I hunk that girls flaunting them is unfair on guys. I do prefer smaller breasts than larger ones and I feel that you should not have implants. I also know that my mates prefer smaller breasts as well. When i say this this isn't a joke. The way to live with it or get used to it is to learn to appreciate what you have got and what you have that other want. Eg health You need to ignore the media they are all airbrushed and its not fair to treat the public like this hope this helps
Sorry if it didnt
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reader, serenity80 +, writes (20 February 2011):
I think it's a great shame this is such a big issue for you. In my experience the size of girls breasts is not that important, and i speak for all my friends too. Don't get hung up on school experiences, breast size is just one of dozens of things insecure kids use to bully. Love your breasts and you'll meet a man who does too.
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