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writes:This is a really hard question to ask because I'm fairly certain of the answer, but I was wondering if I will ever find some one because of my size. I'm very small for my age (18), I look much younger I'm very thin. Are there guys out there that will look past my body and like me for who I am? I feel like just giving up trying. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2014): I'm sorry I can't believe that you can't find someone to like you because you are too small or look too young. I mean are what you saying is that is all they like you for is that they think you look 14 and want to take advantage of you? And they really don't care about you? or are you legitimately saying that guys don't like you because you are small and young looking? I have never ever heard any guy say that to me, unless they like big women or like very tall women, most guys don't look at small women as being a problem. So if guys don't like you maybe its your attitude or something you are doing that makes them not. Maybe you want a certain type of guy and are just not hooking up with the right guy to have a relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2014): yr done growing in height but you will look more mature in the face as you get older.yr young , very very youngbe yourself and ingore the haters, not everyone can be tall.Wear clothes for your age group not 14 yr olds, wear a little make up, not too much or it looks try hard. Be a good person and be nice. Some guys are short too, look at Peter Dinklage from the show Game of thrones, hes a dwarf, but is good looking,married and very talented.Look at Linda Hunt from NCIS, shes tiny, my neighbour is a tiny malaysian woman with a husband who is 6". Many women and men are short. there will be a guy who likes you, dont be bitter or hateful as this will show, dont resent taller people, be positive and smile and people will want to talk to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2014): hunny, everyone will find someone for them. i always thought i was too small. i come up to my boyfriend's waist! but lets just say me and you have got some more growing to do. you've still got 7 more years before you stop growing in height. but, i wouldn't worry. i'm sure a lot of guys might like that. no guys are the same, just like no girls are the same. some guys may like huge women who like the size of buildings! others may like more smaller ones. they'll like them especially if the girl is kind, because then they know that they have something to protect. i hope i made sense. send a followup if i didnt
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reader, Gauntlet  +, writes (12 February 2014):
 Like everybody here, I will tell you to not give up, because there are bags of guys who like petite girls, because they are extra-cute, or because they are themselves under the average size among men of the same generation. Who knows, everybody has his own reason to prefer this or that. Anyway as CMMP pointed it out: never ever neglect your hygiene (a lot of men are instantly disgusted by a bad breath, greasy hairs, dirty fingernails, fart flagrance, stump-like teeth, etc.) and offer yourself some pretty clothes that underline your femininity. Avoid any "baby doll" effect as you want to be taken as a grown up adult. Avoid too to wear what is fashionable because comparing to others, you will look like shrunk. Be yourself, a smiling person (it's essential, look in your mirror how you look totally different when you're smiling and when you're poutting. Not the same person !) and become member of a club where you will be able to meet new people while having fun and get a little more culture. That way, you will be able to kill two birds with one stone. Side remark: about what said CMMP about the fact gay men who work in fashion created the tall-girls standard.I must say it made me laugh as it was unexpected, for sure.No, the reason why lady models are so tall, is because:1) it's much easier to work on a large scale (a dress has to be sewed ON the model when it is "in construction" and has to be repaired ON the model when damaged, which may happen during fashion shows.2) tall girls are easy to be watched during fashion show. Imagine how difficult it would be to appreciate from a distance the shape of a dress if it was worn by a petite girl. By the way, never forget a lot of buyers actually are in their 50's or more, they often need glasses to see things clearly.3) Model and actors HAD to be tall for more than a century as the cameras were huge and heavy. The material has become small and light just recently, because of digital technology. Thus, it's not impossible actors won't have to be that tall they used to be in a near future. But for fashion, it still will be required I think as clothes move more elegantly on a large size than on a small one. Just try at home to create a nice drape with a large sheet, and with a small sheet. See how it works much nicer with a large one ?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (12 February 2014):
 I heard someone this week say "the key to life is to NOT PEAK in HIGH SCHOOL" and that's so very true. If you are the "perfect" cheerleader in high school... where do you have to go but down.. If you are the "not popular" girl with no hips and no boobs.. well then you can only improve...besides as you age your body will fill out and yet you will remain more slender than those of us that filled out earlier and now BATTLE to keep the filled out parts NOT so filled out....
Petite women have a harder time being taken seriously when young. I'm 5'2" and can't wear heels now. I try to dress like an adult but part of the issue is that 80% of off the rack clothing will need to be altered to fit a petite slender body properly. Figure on alterations for most of your clothes for most of your life. My stepmom is about my size. She has a tailor on retainer for adjusting hems, cuffs, sometimes the waist needs to be taken in to accommodate the hips... always BUY to fit the bigger sized item (hips and shoulders) taking in and shortening is much easier than letting out and lengthening.
Just like you have things you prefer in life (food items or how a man looks) so do men... NOT all men want tall leggy, buxom girls. Some men prefer petite, slim hipped, slender girls, some guys like petite chubby girls....
and personality and confidence is very sexy....
You should live your life to please yourself... and the right match for you will come along...
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (12 February 2014):
 Ok, I'll take the liberty of reading CMMP's mind and assolving him from suspects of gay bashing. I think what he meant is simply this :
Fashion is created, launched and promoted ( and models are sent on the runways ) by fashion designers, many of whom happen to be gay. That's less irrelevant than it would seem, because it may mean that their idea of a perfect body and flawless female beauty is inclined to a rather rarefied , " symbolic " image , that not necessarily enhances , or even takes into account, the typical, real physical traits of an average female body : Tits, butts, a slight curve in the belly, and a modest height ...... Although that too is not true of all fashion designers, of course. It is true for Armani, ( and alas many others ) for instance, whose streamlined jackets and masculine trousers seem thought for a tall androginous woman with long, lean legs- but not for, say, Versace whose creations express a very aggressive, in - your- face, sensuality for a very " female " body..
In short, I guess what CMMP says is : gay fashion designers ( who, objectively, are many ) think, and want us to believe, that all women must be 5'11 with endless legs - but what do they know what the average Joe actually likes in real life.
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (12 February 2014):
Of course you'll find men who will be attracted to you. There are entire races , entire populations with generally short, petite women, if nobody liked them, they'd be extint by now.
Plus, assuming that your body is " imperfect " ( but "perfect beauty " is a social, arbitrary and mutable ideal, which varies often and allows ample space for individual variations and personal preferences ) , at least yours is an imperfection that's seen as more tolerable than others. For instance, if you think being too thin makes your social and romantic life difficult... try being too fat then tell us.
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reader, llifton +, writes (12 February 2014):
 of course you will find someone. as you said, you're only 18. you have all the time in the world to find someone.
also, keep in mind that since you're only 18, you are still growing and maturing. you won't always look so young. maturity will set in and you will look different. besides, when you get older, you will consider it a blessing!
good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2014): I'm not sure if gay men decided if women should be thin to be models (???). I'm not sure what that has to do with your post.
Your post is about how straight guys will perceive you as a young woman? Will THEY scrutinize your thinness or height?
You're dealing with guys just coming out of puberty; still growing and developing. Starting to notice girls in a very different way. They don't really know what they're looking for.
They're not all that great to look at either. You're making up their minds what they won't like; before they get a chance to figure out for themselves.
If you're jealous and intimidated by the pretty popular girls; your jealousy is going to deceive you into believing that's all boys like. Then you'll get a snotty attitude.
If you're being shy and insecure you're difficult to approach. If they can't get near you while you're too busy hiding, that's not their fault.
Dress pretty for your age, fix your hair, and walk with pride. Work with what you've got.
If you set your limitations in your head without really giving anyone a chance to get near you, your question will always go unanswered.
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reader, oldbag  +, writes (12 February 2014):
 Ofcourse there is or ALL the small slim girls in the world would be single!
Try wearing heels, clothes that give the impression your more shapely - if it helps you feel better.
Being confident and happy with a 'life' attracts attention so learn to love yourself.
I have always been slim and have had the bonus of being able to wear whatever I want and eat as I please - causing envy from the dieters.
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reader, Atsweet1 +, writes (12 February 2014):
 I dont know if you notice but alot of women are trying to be small with a big but. It all depends on the person preference. Some men like thick overweight petite all different sizes. Im small thin Im not like donkey booties but Im not far from it. My size and weight is appropiate for my body. Be glad also I have 2 children also. You have women spending lots of money on tummy tucks booty injections liposuction. Be glad for what the good lord has bless you with. You can please everybody on one end I have some that want me to look like a boy then on the other spectrum someone wants me to look like stripper whore. So on that note be happy with what you have I know I am. The body is amazing and you can by parts work them create its on you. Know what you like and want to see on you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2014): Never give up. Everyone likes different physical attributes in people, height, hair colour, personality, the list goes on etc etc.Don't put yrself down, it may not seem this way now but looking young can be a good thing when your older. Letyour personality shine through and yu will find a guythat likes you for you,every person has something that they are not happy with about themself, whether it be skin, hair, height, weight, scars, or even a part of their personality, whatever.. Never say you cant.I went to college with a girl who was 4'10 1/2she lookedyoung at 18-19 but she had a great personality was kind and warm and had many friends and eventually got engaged in in third yr of college. A ladyI work with is 4'11 and is married with 2 adult kids, I work with a few women who are under 5'3, all have r/ships. Don't give up hope, you arestill very young, don't ever give up hope.All the best
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reader, CMMP +, writes (12 February 2014):
There's very rarely someone so physically off putting that NO ONE would want to be with them. Especially if you're hygienic and take care of yourself.
A lot of guys like smaller women. It makes them feel more masculine. Gay men are the ones who decided that tall skinny women should be models, not regular guys.
If you're below 4'10" then it may be a little harder to find a guy, but still very very possible. It's just that below that height kind of feels like you're with someone who's not fully grown and that's a little off putting to me. But I'm 5'11" so that may not be the case for shorter guys.
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