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writes:Hello people :)I'm kind of in a pickle at the mo :Lwell, I like someone younger than me, and he seems interested in me to and he has just asked me out to a dance. You're probably asking why that is a bad thing...Well, I am in love with someone who is 19 years older than me... So he is way too old for me, but my love for him is true...I'm just worried that I will never find love like that with anyone else :( I still have "crushes" with boys but nothing like the level I am with this certain guy.I just don't want to end up alone or hurting other guys because I can't get over him.It's tearing me up.Please help me :'( please :( xxx Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankyou, and I do understand :) i'm not religious at all though :/
it's just difficult :/ it's not something I feel like I can talk about as it is embarrassing. I don't even feel like I can talk to my friends about it or anything. Not even my closest friends.
I just thought that maybe if I tried not to think about him, it would all just go away, but it's just grown and grown until I don't know what to do anymore...
I want to be able to go to this dance and not feel guilty or feel like I am cheating myself and my feelings by going with someone else (though there is no chance of me ever being with this guy).
It's too much for me to handle, but I'm too scared of judgement to talk to anyone else about it :(
thankyou xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2010): Of course you really love him. Don't worry about that.
But you really need to find someone older who is near you that you trust, and tell them what is happening. An Aunt or close older friend or a clergyman. The problem here is that you are dealing with things that need an experienced ear.
Please please do not keep this to yourself. Find someone to talk to about this. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNo the boy younger than me (and when I say younger I mean by a few months) asked me to a school prom.
And how would you know if I love this other guy or not? I love him so much it actually hurts :( really hurts:( I lie awake at night and cry, I obv don't do it because I want to, it's because I can't help it. I understand that people think that because I am young, I can't understand what true love is, but they are wrong. Love is when you would do anything for them, when no matter how much you try you can't get them off your mind, when you want to spend your every living moment with them and know everything there is to know about them... Well, that's how I feel. So I can't just forget about him, it would kill me. As for him as far as I am aware, he only sees me as a friend. He couldn't risk seeing me any other way, and I understan that and don't expect him to, but it doesn't change my feelings towards him.
Thankyou x
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reader, cavwils12  +, writes (6 December 2010):
 I doubt you really love him. What dance could he ask you out to? Seems weird a man of his age would still go to dances. But you say you love him when you haven't had conversations with him, done any activities with him or anything. If your that young and he is that old you need to let that go because if you act on your feelings he can get fired, your family will be disgusted and try to do things with the police and he will end up being known as a molester and I am sure you do not want that to happen. If you truly feel like the two of you have something, wait till your 18. If he loves you, then he will wait. Think about this too...if he is 19 years older than you are and flirting with you, how many other girls do you think he is doing that to as well?
Take care of yourself and be careful.
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