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writes:All the women i have ever dated cheated on me one way or another i looked at my self more closely i didnt see anything seriously wrong with me and how i treat these women is it ok to think that there are no faithful women out there no more ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2008): Can it be that there was something lacking in the relationships, without you maybe realizing it or admitting to it; were you just dating or what type of commitment was there between you and the partners?
I do agree with Diovan, more information is needed to be able to assist with this; however I can assure you; not all women are cheaters!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2008): You need to give us more information. It's not a quesion of cheating, but why these things occur and what is happening to the emotions inside. We've tried to be honest and reassure you in our clumsy way, but nothing will fill the gap of incomplete information and any advice we've given should still be suspect.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2008): There are a lot of serial cheaters from both genders.
And there are lot of people from both genders who have never cheated on anyone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2008): Bad communication leads to cheating. When person is in a relationship that's good except for just a couple of things, but lacks a way to fix them, he or she may look to fill in the missing pieces with an affair. If the relationship were all bad, or all good, the cheating would not happen. But when one or both people are too set in their ways, or discourage conversation about what's needed to fix the relationship, the setting is ripe for infidelity.Think back on your past loves and see if you were choosing chronically dissatisfied women, or were you indeed fulfilling their every dream (or were you just giving your girlfriends what you thought they should want, not what they really wanted.) You may think that it's impossible to fulfill a woman's every need (not wish), but the effort is what's important. And she should also try to fulfill your needs for affection, sex, admiration, etc. In a good relationship, both partners are constantly working to make the other happy, but at the same time are aware of what they themselves need, and helping their partner fulfill their own needs.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2008): I think before you assume all women are unfaithful due to your past..You need to do some soul searching. Whether or not you see it if every single woman you've ever been with has cheated on you. Then somewhere along the lines you're doing something wrong. Whether its the kind of girls you choose. Where you meet them or even how you conduct yourself in the relationship. Bottom line cheating is just pathetic but whats happend has happened. Instead of dwelling on it and feeling sorry for yourself. Go out and strive to find a woman thats good for you and that doesn't cheat. Alot more of us women believe it or not absolutely despise cheating. Don't let past relationships cloud your judgement and your future.
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reader, twisted +, writes (28 June 2008):
 I am going to admit something that I am far from proud of: I have been unfaithful to every man I have been with, but before you jump all over that, I NEVER cheated before I was cheated on first. I was stupid and should have ended the relatioships after the infidelity, but chose the spiteful way. NOW, I have been with someone for 2 years (I cheated on my ex to be with him) but I have finally promised MYSELF I am not going to cheat ever again, for me and my self respect. I will end my relationship before I cheat. But here is kind of a secret, my fiance and I were friends first, we were both in relationships so we could just talk, openly and honestly about anything, we didn't curb our conversations to impress one another. It was so easy to promise myself to someone who I knew as a friend and a person, not a person who showed me just the good things about themselves like everyone does when trying to start a new relationship. Try to find a girl you can start a friendship with and talk talk talk. Know a girl before you KNOW a girl.
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (28 June 2008):
 I wouldn't cheat on my husband for one simple reason - I would be cheating on myself (my principles etc). My advice to you would be to keep an open mind about dating despite your negative experiences. You may not have treated those women badly and may not have deserved their infidelity. However, you should just think of them as life experience and one thing is certain - none of them were right for you in the long term. When you meet Ms Right then you will appreciate her all the more for her integrity and faithfulness. I am a firm believer that you have to kiss a few frogs before you come across your princ(ess).
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2008): What an ignorant, sexist and just plain dumb question. Of course there are women who don't cheat. I'm one of them. The common denominator here is YOU. Why do you gravitate towards cheaters. Look within, mate, instead of blaming 50% of the world's population. Sheesh.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2008): There are a lot of faithful woman and men out there. My wife and I have never cheated in our 25 years of living together or bring married. My first wife of 11 years and I never cheated on each other. We never even considered it even when we were having relationship problems. My wife found a very nice guy right after she left her first husband, but she didn't want to get serious right away and needed to date others. She told him that she was going to do that before she ever did and told him to do the same. My wife was my first girlfriend after my divorce and she told me that she thought it would be good for me to also date others for a couple of years. I did date others, but she knew about it. Neither one of us think that was cheating in either case.
I believe that most women and men are faithful. I think that most affairs happen because of sadness and depression over relationship problems and that people make a mistake and cheat. However, there are those of both sexes who cheat without reason just because they want to have sex with other partners. Neither the affair nor the blatent cheating are right though. I agree with others that you have just had bad luck with women.
There are also women who act like sluts who will be very faithful, loving and caring when they meet the right guy. They will change in a second. I know. My wife changed from promiscuous after her divorce to being a very faithful, loving and caring partner right after her first date with me. She broke up with her last boyfriend the next night and has never had another in our 29 years together. She has made many sacrifices in her desire to make me happy. She is just about everything that I could ask for in a wife and loving partner. Not perfect, but then who in this world is?
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reader, Midge +, writes (27 June 2008):
 Sweetheart it sounds like you are attracted to the wrong woman, and nothing to do with there being no faithful woman in the world.
I have bee with my boyfriend for 10 years and have never even contemplated cheating on him. Never!
There may not be anything "wrong" with you, its perhaps your taste in woman that needs changing!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2008): Sorry your questions make me angry. I DON'T CHEAT, I never ever will. I don't like to tell lies and I don't like liars. Unfortunaely as the other aunts have implied you hang out with some very strange women. Probably if you could give us more details, we'll be able to tell you where your going wrong.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2008): I can honestly tell you that I have NEVER, EVER cheated and I never, ever would. It goes totally against my morals and I think it's a truely awful thing to do.
Have a look at the women you have dated. You probably keep going for the same type. I agree with "Marco 262".
Good Luck. I hope you find someone that treats you well next time. x
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reader, Marco262 +, writes (27 June 2008):
You're dating the wrong kind of women.
What kind of girls are you attracted to? Where are you picking up these girls you're dating? What is your technique when trying to pick up girls? Chances are you're just attracting/finding the kinds of girls who are more likely to cheat than others. There ARE girls out there who are faithful and committed more to an actual relationship than to just sex. They're just harder to get into bed on the first date, go figure.
Try changing up your technique, or start going to different venues when looking for women. Start considering women you wouldn't have considered before. You're only getting a small slice of the female pie right now. Don't get discouraged!
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