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writes:I have this science teacher (female, age 50+ ?) that I really like. Like a lot! I can't wait until science class every day, and on the holidays I miss seeing her and feel pretty sad. When we have science I get really excited and when I get to talk to her one on one (about homework or something) I get really excited and really nervous. It's been about 3 years now. At first, it was really bad; like I used to shake like crazy and stuff. I don't shake anymore but I just really like her so much! I wish I could see her as a friend not a teacher.So, what my question is, is this normal? Like I know teacher crushes are normal, but this is of the same gender.. ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionok, that's good to know! :) sounds the same as me lol. except i'm not quite game enough to get in trouble. Because I'm what they call a goody-two-shoes :L
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reader, PsILoveYou  +, writes (3 December 2010):
 I am in the exact situation!!!! I would do crazy stuff to get into trouble so that my teacher would have to have a 'one-to-one' chat with me after homeroom time! Then we would chat and chat and chat, and her eyes look into mine but she would grin from time to time and i would feel my heart beat like CRAZZYYYYY!!!!! I never told anyone about my feelings for her though....
Anyways, just to let you know that there's alot of people out there who are in the same situation as you are in now!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks, :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2010): It's alright to be friendly with your teacher, and want to be close to them, but you really need to be careful not to take things too far, even on a purely platonic level. If you become too close it could cause people to think you are in a relationship, and that could damage her reputation and cause people to harass you. Even if that doesn't happen, there still needs to be a level of separation between teachers and students. There are school districts these days who have instituted policies that teachers are to have no contact with students outside of work, and not even to have their students as friends on facebook. I think that's too extreme of a policy. I used to work after hours pruning my 7th/8th grade science teacher's orange trees. Still, whatever happened, he never lowered himself to my level, per-se, by doing buddy-type things with me. It was friendly, informal, but always professional in how he behaved. I used to go back and visit him often, and I'm still friends with him 16 years after I graduated from that school. We eventually did do buddy-type stuff after I became an adult, but even after I graduated, until then, he was a professional. Now that I'm a teacher, I've tried to keep the same kind of relations with my current and former students. I hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOh, at least I'm not the only one :) Thanks, that really helped :)
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reader, yvonne44  +, writes (27 June 2010):
All I can say is that I think it´s normal. I know quite a lot people who have crushes with the same gender and aren´t gay. I was in the same position as you. My ex-teacher is also 50+ and I am 22, but first time when I started to have the same feelings as you, I was 17. I missed her during holidays, I especially liked talking to her and made her smile...and I still like. Why? I left school 2 years ago, but we are friends and keep in touch every single month. And still I don´t know what kind of feelings I have for her, and I don´t even try to give them a name. All I feel is that they are real, strong and often help me go trough difficult times in my life. Hope they will last.I wish you luck with your teacher and to understand yourself. To like someone isn´t bad thing at all. ;-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk :)
I honestly, have no idea what kind of feelings I have for her. All I know is that I just really like her and am really missing her at the moment (it's holidays). I have never really liked any boys or anything before, so I don't know what a romantic feeling is like really..
Sometimes I wish she could be my mum, not that I don't like my own mum, but I just like her that much.
Thanks so much for the advice :) Like you said, I think I will just keep being myself and see what happens. Thank you!
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (27 June 2010):
 I don't think you need to do anything about it. Just continue being a good student, be friendly and yourself. Just carry on enjoying your classes with her - even tell her how much you enjoy learning from her.
Do you have romantic feelings for her, or is this just an admiration?
Just be yourself!! As time goes by, you'll just see her as a teacher you really loved having. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAnd also wondering, what should I do about it?Thanks for answering :)
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (26 June 2010):
Totally normal!! You just really, really like this teacher and think she's super cool and wish you could be friends. You might really admire her as well. You are totally normal, sweet thing.
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