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writes:*OP's Original Title*Hi, I'm a 17 year old girl, and about 4 months ago I've met a guy one year younger than I am. Initially it started as friendship, but soon enough we developed a very strong bond, and we started hanging out more and more until he confessed his feelings for me. From then on, we started going out, and the relationship was the best one I ever had so far. We never fought, we talked about everything, we cracked jokes, we had fun, we loved each other and we weren't afraid to show it to everyone. Both our parents approved of the relationship easily, and his mother specifically loved me dearly and treated me as her own child. Everyone around us said we were perfect for each other, and not very later after that we got to the conclusion that we are soulmates. We both believed we were meant to be for each other, and it was going great. I'm the one for him and he's the one for me.However, in May, we both found out we were leaving for good to live in different countries, Lebanon and South Africa. And those two countries are very far away from each other. We started spending all day everyday together, and one time I started crying and he did too. We promised we'll always love each other from then on. Then goodbye day came and we both cried again. Now, distance between us is huge, and we don't know when we will be able to meet again. I have 4 years of university to finish, and he has 3. We still love each other, but we're starting to think that fate never wants us to be together, although we're soulmates. I want to know, will we ever be together again? Is it possible that fate will destine us to be together in the same country again? In four years, I might move to South Africa to be with him, but I keep wondering if my feelings will last that long ... Please help me :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionDear all,
Thank you for your kind support, I appreciate all your opinions, and I believe me and him are destined to be together, and so I will have hope and believe that everything will work fine.
Much love, xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2010): sometime feelings lasts, sometimes it dont.
it is up to your case, it meant to be it will last.
if it didnt last, then hope you'll find your love somewhere else.
you both need to decide and see how things go.
as was in similar situation i was away from my love for years, and everything works fine now :)
good luck
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (30 July 2010):
 No.. unfortunately love does not conquer all.. but true love exists forever.
If your meant to be together, then that is your path, you will find a way, or the universe will help you..
If your not meant to be together, then your love will last to the end of time, but your path is to also love other people, you will walk on different paths..
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2010): You have to find ways to keep the communication strong and consistent, so you don't lose the closeness you feel now. Talk on the phone, message or chat(webchat if you want) on the computer, text if it's cheaper long distance, etc..
The best would be any kind of chat, since texting really makes thins seem more impersonal and cold, when trying to maintain a strong closeness, soulmate-wise. I've seen people lose their best boyfriends and girlfriends over texting, because one or the other didn't realize how much they were letting go of their close ties with each other by 'checking in' and 'leaving texts'..randomn stuff, which is okay for business and people you see here and there, but doesn't work well with alot of long distance relationships.
Talk, talk, talk, but not so much that you annoy each other either, and you'll hold onto that comfort, in knowing the other person hasn't let go of you. Try to let him know that you feel more comfortable remaining a long distance girlfriend rather than downgrading to the friends zone, unless you're comfortable with hearing about him dating other girls until you get there.. Hold on to what you can, with him, and unless he stops feeling the same about you, everything will remain in tact. If you're both going to school, just be prepared for times when studying and such cause periods of silence from one or the other. That's bound to occur, and will be perfectly normal.
If he's done in 3 years(a year before you), maybe he can move back to where you live, even if it's only until you finish school? Just a thought.. Everything will be fine.. you both sound too serious about each other for your relationship to crumble, unless of course one of you allow it to, as TimmD said. Remember, communication will hold you together like brick mortar. Try to hold onto the boyfriend/girlfriend feelings, but not to slip into that dreaded friends status by being too annoying or letting him ramble on dates with other girls, etc. You don't want to be just somebody he story tells to, or you'll end up in different books.
Have faith and just try to have fun while you're in school, and it'll really help you cope with your distance from each other. Just remind each other when you feel you're doing something out of place or wrong, and soon those 3 of 4 years will be up, and you can move closer again.
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reader, escribanus  +, writes (30 July 2010):
 Dear child, you are very young. Live, have adventures, travel and learn as much as you can. The destiny likes to put a lot of tryals on our way, if you are really meant to be together you will be reunited again, if not, both of you will find new partners. Take my advice, put a smile on your pretty face, tell him you love him a lot and that you will free each other to have your own lives, once you become independent adults you will see if it you were both real life partners or the special and gorgeus first real love.
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reader, cocoqueen88  +, writes (30 July 2010):
 Sometimes people do find their soul mates very young and are separated for one reason or another. Sometimes it's fo the best because people nee time to grow and find out who they want to be. Later on in life they meet back up again when they're more mature and everything works out fine. So don't lose all hope.
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reader, TimmD +, writes (30 July 2010):
 Maybe you should look at this as fate's way of testing the two of you. If your love survives a few years apart, then perhaps it can survive anything.
You may believe that fate could be keeping you apart, but you have control over your own feelings. So does he. If you both want to be together in the future, then I believe you two will be able to figure out a way.
Good luck.
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