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anonymous
writes:I stand 5'4 barefoot, I weigh 180lbs and I still have the washboard abs approaching the 30 plateau. The problem is my face. Friends and strangers alike tell me I'm very handsome. Enough to consider modeling but a huge dose of reality hit me when an agent told me that I was "way too short, but a very beautiful man for advertising" in a nice way. Haven't had much luck with women and the dating world either. The meanest thing I heard a girl say is that I look like a "freak" because I'm better looking than a lot of tall guys, but my height turns them off completely.Do women feel threatened or intimidated by good looking short guys? Are short men allowed to be good looking or do women find them unnattractive regardless of height? I feel trapped. I'm a nice guy and I treat everyone with respect. Just wish I could get the same respect in return.
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reader, shortandhandsome  +, writes (13 January 2012):
I'm 5'4" like yourself and told I'm very handsome.I wear a lift in my shoes to make myself look a little bit taller.I don't have problems with women.Ive done very well for myself.But one thing is your very stocky at 180.I'm 135 and only 15% body fat.Can you trim down some maybe?At your size it will make you look some what out of proportion at 180.Another thing I advise all men at any height is learn to love woman for who they are,not what they look like.I know that may sound preachy, but love is in the heart not on the surface.My favorite girlfriends and lovers never turned out to be the best looking ones on the surface.
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reader, shortandhandsome +, writes (13 January 2012):
I'm 5'4" like yourself and told I'm very handsome.I wear a lift in my shoes to make myself look a little bit taller.I don't have problems with women.Ive done very well for myself.But one thing is your very stocky at 180.I'm 135 and only 15% body fat.Can you trim down some maybe?At your size it will make you look some what out of proportion at 180.Another thing I advise all men at any height is learn to love woman for who they are,not what they look like.I know that may sound preachy, but love is in the heart not on the surface.My favorite girlfriends and lovers never turned out to be the best looking ones on the surface.
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reader, shortandhandsome +, writes (13 January 2012):
I'm 5'4" like yourself and told I'm very handsome.I wear a lift in my shoes to make myself look a little bit taller.I don't have problems with women.Ive done very well for myself.But one thing is your very stocky at 180.I'm 135 and only 15% body fat.Can you trim down some maybe?At your size it will make you look some what out of proportion at 180.Another thing I advise all men at any height is learn to love woman for who they are,not what they look like.I know that may sound preachy, but love is in the heart not on the surface.My favorite girlfriends and lovers never turned out to be the best looking ones on the surface.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (10 September 2011):
 Tbh, yes I have got the impression that most women like tall guys better , or at least that below average height is something they can accept, but not actually prefer.So ? what's the problem ? The same happens to overweight, or just plump, women. Do all chubby girls need to get themselves to a nunnery, and short guys to live in seclusion ? Of course not. Nobody is perfect, and nobody matches ALL the current standards of beauty of his / her society. Work with what you've got- self confidence does not come from height or weight or eye colour. Feel good within your skin, be happy of being whomever you are - THAT's attractive at any height.
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reader, Nime +, writes (10 September 2011):
 Everybody likes something different. I'm 5'6", 24 years old, and for whatever reason I have never, ever been attracted to tall guys. You sound more than fine to me!
But I cannot abide small hands on a man, they're just creepy. :(
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (10 September 2011):
 Everybody's heart is about 1/2-way between their knees and their forehead...... and having one (a heart) is all that really matters....
When the right girl comes along... and you and she are "made for each other"... and hit it off... your height - as well as her's - will be of ZERO importance..
Good luck....
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reader, Troi +, writes (10 September 2011):
I know exactly how you feel. Females go through it the same way. A lot of the media seems to want you to believe that being beautiful means being tall and skinny with a well-toned body. I'm 4'11" barefoot and I've been told, often enough, that I have a cute face and I have curves in all the right places but a lot of guys treat me like I'm their little sister because of my height.I don't think shorter guys are unattractive at all. Actually, I rather like them. I think what bothers a lot of women is that they're "looking down at you" while it would normally be the opposite where the guy looks down at them. Why don't you start looking for girls who are a tad bit shorter? I'm sure they feel the same way you do. Also, there are a million other agents who are looking for a good face. If you give up that easily are you really dedicated enough? Just keep pushing through and you'll do fine.
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