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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2006): From experience, I can say that cheating is more likely, but I would say that was more down to the person rather than the distance.
Early in my relationship, I was cheated on numerous times. My fiancee realised she made a mistake and is now totally committed to me.
I hardly really get to see her and 30 hours travelling of a weekend to see her for a few hours does take its toll. The stress is unbelievable, but I just reassure her that I would never cheat on her and make her as happy as possible when we are not together.
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reader, Amethyst  +, writes (16 September 2006):
 While those in an online relationship have more grounds to cheat, most of the time they seek an online relationship because the people around them aren't their preference, or something of that nature.
It really does depend on the person, though, as to whether or not they cheat. But see, if it's in their nature to cheat, they'd do it regardless of the distance... they'd just do it more if they were farther away, because there'd be less of a chance you'd catch them, see?
So no one can give you a DEFINATE answer to this... it all depends on who a person is... cheating is a characteristic of someone.
If you love someone enough, you'll get past all the hardships that come along with not seeing the one you love, and you'll make it through. I know, I'm currently in one. We're suffering from the one night transition of seeing each other every moment that we weren't at school or work every day, to not seeing each other at all and just talking on the phone. But we love and trust each other enough to strive for the day we'll be together again. So, no one can say it's impossible, that every long distance lover cheats... because I'm proof they don't, and that LDRelationships can work.
Do you trust your lover enough to put yourself into a relationship with him/her? If so, then I'd say go for it! Best of luck with whatever you do, and sorry for rambling a bit too much... just kinda.... swimmy headed, but I wanted to help somehow. x.x
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reader, sjd +, writes (16 September 2006):
 I would agree with the first answer. I think whether a person in a long distance relationship depends on the person. I don't think that a long distance relationship makes someone more likely to cheat. I think that a cheating person is a cheating person short or long distance.
I don't know if you are asking this question because you may have to go into a long distance relationship. If you are, I think there are some things you should know. I spent the past 2 years of my life in a long distance relationship. I never once cheated or even looked at anyone else. However, long distance adds a second factor to a relationship...epsecially if you really love each other...stress! There is an unbelievale increase in stress. It is way easier to misunderstand eacho ohter when you are not talking face to face and you are oponly able to talk on a phone or instant messenger. In my relationship we made the arrangement to try and drive (four hours) every weekend that we could. Now a four hour drive in a car by yourself is to visit the person for 2 days max is stressful in itself. And the worst part is leaving and knowing you are going home to be alone without your significant other for a period of time. Even after a year, every time I drove home I cried for at least 45 minutes just because we had to be apart for so long. My situation was a little extreme and may have been harder to deal with because we went from living together one day to being an entire state apart the next. I am not trying to discourage you from getting into a long distance relationship, if you really love each other it is worht it. However, you should know that you cannot expect it to be easy. Having a long distance relationship was one of the hardest things I have ever had to do! Idf you love each other, you can get through it though. Just learn to communicate and try not to misinterpret things over the phone or im. Hope this helps and good luck to you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2006): If someone is truly in love with you and you're making plans for the future then I shouldn't think so. However, if the distance is very far and you can't get to see your partner on a regular basis, there is always the possibility that they will get lonely without you and find someone local for company.It all depends on the strength of the relationship and the commitment involved.
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx  +, writes (16 September 2006):
 Well it all depends on the person, I guess. Obviously not seeing your partner for a long time can be stressful and some people will stray, most just because they want the intimacy they are not getting with their partner. However, people who are truly in love can get through living a distance away from each other, as they don't want anyone else, even if they go months without sex.
Long distance relationships can be difficult and you need to think long and hard before you enter into one: you could be sacrificing a lot for a person you hardly ever see. But if you love each other and have what it takes to fight against the odds, then by all means, go for it.
Good luck
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