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writes:Are men biologically incapable of forming close emotional bonds with anyone, including wives, girl friends, etc.?I've read and heard in the news a lot lately about how the neurotransmitters (oxytocin) released by the brain in women to bond with others, but that men seem to lack this chemical at any other time except when they have an orgasm. Even then the amount they recieve is only equivalent to the amount in a woman's brain on any given ordinary day. And it dissipates quickly in men. The neurotranmitters in men make them aggressive.In short, researchers and the media seem to arguing that men are biologically incapable of forming close emotional bonds with others and women should not expect them to be able to do so. Well guys, I want to know if this is true or does science and the media not have the whole picture?
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (23 October 2007):
 I wonder how men can get heartbroken if they are "biologically incapable" of forming close bonds. Something is the matter with that science.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2007): I don't know what the science says, but my opinion is that both men and women are capable of developing a deep emotional bond. There are big differences in their relationship feelings though. I am basing these opinions on the experiences of both my wife and I.
Both men and women like to be hugged and shown affection. Perhaps some men avoid that because it makes them feel too feminine. However, I still think that they need it.
Both men and women like sex, for the most part. There is a difference in what they can be happy with. Although they both like an affectionate lovemaking session, men are more likely to be happy with just the sexual act, while women are more likely to be happy with just the foreplay and cuddling.
Men and women both have affairs. I think that women normally have them because there is affection and loving missing in their marriage, while men have them just for the sex. This is not black and white, but just my opinion of the trend. For instance, my wife and I are happily married, with a great life together, including sex. She has never had a desire for an affair, but I have on occasions. I have never acted on it and I don't think that I ever would, even if the chance arose. I don't even know why I have had those desires. There are couples that have been married for 50 years and neither one has ever had the desire to stray.
Again, these are just my opinions, based on nothing but the experiences of my wife and I and some others that I have known.
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reader, dapone 1  +, writes (22 October 2007):
 Dear Anon.
you have fallen for the rubbish that the media puts out, if they do not now the complete story then they will make it up
men and woman all have the same emotions,if i tell some one i love them, then i would mean it with all my being,i would die to save that persons life, and i believe that a lot of men would do the same for their loved ones, there are one or two men in the world who would not, but they are selfish and uncaring people who only think of them selfs.
I am glad to say they are far and few between, i would not put any credit to this story, science does not always get things right, you cannot get two scientist studying the same project to even talk to each other, never mind agree on any subject,if some one loves and adores you, and you feel the same towards them, then who give a care what any one should say,dont give up on men because of a story you read in the press after all it is only a new paper story, once upon a time, see what i mean,
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