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*eema shahid
writes:what kind of looks indicate that a man is looking at a women lustfully..? if he finds a girl pretty and looks back to her several times does it show he s lusting her or just attracted to her beauty..? please help.. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2011): To Too Generous: I tried that too!! Didn't work for me. It just gave him permission (in his mind) to ogle and leer and undress with his eyes until I have to say "OK, enough already" because it gets embarrassing after a while. I tried it not once, not twice, not three times, but over and over and over. Didn't work.
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reader, MonksDaBomb  +, writes (23 April 2010):
 Everyone looks at another by just outside appearance first, so perhaps it's safe to say everyone looks at another lustfully at first? There are lots of times I'll pass by a guy at the mall and think "ooh, he has nice eyes" or "wow, look at that cute butt!"
LOL!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2010): To some degree all men are looking at women lustfully. But I guess you mean how can you tell what his intentions are by the way he looks at you...Frankly, in general, looks are deceiving. While some men are more blatant or vulgar about lusting for a girl, for instance he will look directly at your breasts and make no secret of it. Other men are more contained or discreet. Whether its to your face, behind your back, briefly, ogling, whatever, all men are going to sum you up with their eyes at some point.
If a guy is glancing at a girl across the room and is always looking at her or trying to look at her, yeah chances are he thinks you are pretty and probably wants to talk to you. This is probably a good sign that he does appreciate you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2010): It sounds like you are being hurt by this behaviour. Therefore, he either needs to change his behaviour or you need to remove yourself from this relationship. If my husband were ogling other women I'd invite him to go and be with them permanently.
P.S. It would hurt me too!
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (23 April 2010):
 Seema, you've posted a couple questions about your husband looking at women. I believe you said the first glance is understandable but it is the second glance that hurts your feelings. I suggest, along with the other aunts on your other post, you just tell him that you are uncomfortable when he ogles women when you are out and about together and he should try to restrain himself. When he's on his own time fine but not to do it when you are together. He should be able to handle that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2010): Why can't it be both? I know that when I see a beautiful woman, I tend to both admire and lust after her. The real test is how they look at you when you are talking to them. How they respond will often reveal their true intentions.
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reader, TooGenerous +, writes (23 April 2010):
 I had the same thing with my man. I started noticing them before he did and it worked! I would say to him - WOW - Look at that woman, she is beautiful!! And he would look and say yes or no. And that was that! It is all in how we perceive things that screws with our minds. It is not about the man -it is about us!
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reader, ChristineAvril  +, writes (23 April 2010):
 A woman can look at another woman "appreciatively", but it's likely that a man has other things on his mind - not his fault, it's the way nature intended it!
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