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writes:To start off, few days back I posted a quesion on here regarding the fact that my ex contacted me and confessed that she misses me incredibly after over 3 weeks of NC and a month and half since the breakup. However she was confused as to whether or not talking again will make things more or less painful.I felt as if I had needed time to think so I wrote her telling her to get back to me by Friday and we can decide then.Well Thursday (yesterday now) she wrote me telling me she can't talk Friday and wanted to know if I can talk today. I responded by telling her that I'm busy and asked if Saturday will be better. She then grew annoyed and told me she'll talk to me when she talks to me but then apologized but didn't know exactly what we were going to talk about and asked if we can just text and send email whenever we get the chance. I told her I got a big test tomorrow and that she said she was confused so I wanted to give ourselves more time but that it's fine if we exchange messages when we have the time.Of coarse I took a while before ever replying but she started to grow impatient and wrote back telling me exactly that, that's she's been impatient about this. I told her it was fine and that we'll talk when we got the time.Then she asks if not talking to her has been bugging me (clearly it's been bugging her) with which I responded by telling her that I think of her from time to time but I don't let it absorb my thoughts. I then ended it by saying I had to work on stuff and my battery power was low which it was.She never back. What could she have wanted though? Why was she wondering if not talking to her was bugging me? Could she be wanting to reconcile? I hope so cause I love this girl. However I'm not clear on how to think on it but most important did I do the right thing? Should I do something differently? I want to be able to communicate with her in a way that she won't use me to help ease the pain but actually coming back for more. I just need help on the next move. Hope I didn't blow it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2010): men and women communicate differently. Sounds like she was eager to discuss the relationship while you were preparing for a test and digesting everything still. She was probably thinking you are not interested in her. If you are I would communicate this to her right away and plan a time when you can talk in the very near future.
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