Are his angry outbursts a red flag?

A female age 30-35, *erseylicious16 writes:

Hello, im 16 and my boyfriend is 19. we have been officially dating for one month but casually seeing eachother for about 5 months. in the beginning he told me he used to be very promiscuous. at first he told me he slept with 18 girls then in the midst of a fight he came clean and said it was 22. he is always getting angry or upset to the point where he cries almost uncontrolably. a little while ago we were at my house when my ex texted me. my bf freaked out and was holding back from screaming. we went outside and he kept trying to leave but i was making him stay. he wouldnt let me touch him. i tried to hold his hand but he ripped it away from me. he kept saying "i just wanna go home! i need to leave! now!" after about 15 minutes he calmed down and stayed but was very distant. sometimes on the phone i will saay something and he will not pay attention and ask me to repeat it and i will say nevermind. he then starts getting very upset and telling me im getting an attitude and make me tell him even if it was just something silly. yesterday we were supposed to go to the shore but i felt very very sick. he was very mad. he came over and continued to make me feel bad about being sick and we ended up fighting and he stormed out on me but told me "babe please call me if you want to hang out later". a few phone conversations happened after that where he yelled at me because i wasnt texting him. i called him and asked him if he wanted to go out and he freaked. he blamed me for him leaving and started yelling at me on the phone saying it was my fault he was angry. we ended up going out but he was mad all night until around midnight when he took me home. he told me he used to be in anger management. there was one instance where we were fighting and he punched the door so hard he busted his hand. his stepbrother told me he punches the door and breaks things a lot. his mom tries to calm him down sometimes but he makes her leave. he says "she knows not to push me when im upset". he says he tries to be nice to me when hes upset so he takes it out on people at home. he swears he will never hurt me physically. he told me last night that he had gone to court before with his ex gf because she claimed he pushed her thru a window. he says he was trying to leave her house during a fight and she fell thru it, both arms went thru and she was extremely torn up all over her arms and had to get over 80 stitches. im not sure what to think. does this sound like a mood disorder or something? jus some insight on his behavior please! do u think i should leave? am i doing somethng wrong?? thank you!

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