| A
female
,
anonymous
writes: i feel pretty miserable..my ex and i broke up about two years ago and ever since then i am just not happy. I still miss him dearly. We have been talking for almost a year now on the phone.I am 25 and still live at home..i'm sure there are alot of people who do..things can be expensive and sometimes i feel like money can be saved rather than have 3 roomates and make ends meet where i am living. But ever since the break up i know i am just not happy..i have done things to keep busy..i have traveled, met a new friend that i hang out with, joined a team..but despite that i am just not happy. I feel jealous of a few of my friends who met the person at age 20 or even younger and are still with them. Sometimes i get angry because they want to hang out on a off night and just go to dinner or whatever. Inside i am thinking i bet they would want to go to more singles places if they were in my position..being an atmosphere where you know for sure you won't meet anyone kind of makes me feel we are really in different places. One time my friend took me to a gay bar near by because the food was great..it was nice to see her but in my head i am thinking..you know i am single why did you bring me here.Another thing is i am miserable with my parents..i just get very moody and i know at times i am right and others i am wrong. I think living at home changes the dynamic. You are going to be in a better mood and more appreciative if you don't see them every night.Also with this living situation, i just try to take advantage of being in the apartment alone..even if its a nice day..i will lay on the couch with my coffee and watch my dvr shows.I feel like alot of people i know get up early and do this or do that and also with their significant other..i don't meet guys randomly like alot of other people i know do. And i am not interested in making 20 new friends just to keep busy. I don't know how to enjoy being with my parents without feeling that empty feeling because i don't have someone special. I know that person isn't supposed to complete you and i think i am smart in some ways because i don't just date random guys to pass time. But that is the truth. I almost feel angry when i am with my parents when i don't have someone special. I feel like i would enjoy their company even more if i was still with my boyfriend..i would just be happier all around. I know it sounds stupid and silly but that is how i am feeling and i don't know what to do.I know i will regret it later in life but its how i feel..for a very long time.Does anyone have advice?
View related questions:
broke up, jealous, living at home, money Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2010): Please don't be offended but you sound like you might be a little depressed and know you need to do something different but lack the motivation to do it. Consider therapy or anti-depressants if you really don't have the energy to go out and improve your life. You are young and there are lots of things you could do to make your life better and more fulfilled. Whether that means moving, dating, activities, making single friends, I'm not going to tell you what you should do, because you are the expert on you and what makes you happy. But it seems that your sadness is making you negative and you might be in a rut that you could break out of. If you aren't getting back together with your ex then cutting contact is probably a good idea, because talking on the phone will keep your heart in the past and stop you moving forward. Take care.
|
