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writes:Are first kisses important?I had mine when I was 7, and it was just a peck with a boy in my class. I now look back on it and it's a pretty cute first kiss even though there was no chemistry involved.A few months ago I got in a relationship with a friend who'd never had his first kiss yet. He wanted me to kiss him even though I'd always stress that it was his FIRST and he could regret it later if he didn't like me. He didn't mind and soon I had taken his first kiss, all the way up to his 8th or so.Then just recently, he broke up with me on a whim for no reason, which surprised me because he seemed to display so much affection towards me and he so confidently gave me his first kiss. I asked him about it (not angrily, just curious), and he said he didn't really like me, he just wanted to have some fun.So he just trashed his first kiss on someone he didn't even like!I dunno how someone can not care about this first kiss that much. Maybe someone can elaborate? To me it's almost like your virginity.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2011): My first wasn't with a very special girl and I haven't even got fond memories of her now, but the kiss was while dating her, and I don't regret that. It was the first, but it won't be my last or my best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2011): Different folks have different feelings about what's important.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2011): O.K. The fist kiss of your life is not as important as the first kiss that you have with someone you have deep love for. now if it happened that the first person you kiss you also have feelings for that's all the better. But for him to break up with you so suddenly leads me to believe that he was full of crap about the first kiss thing altogether. especially since he was so callous in the way that he ended the relationship
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (21 January 2011):
 Aww, you got me thinking about my first kiss. My first pseudo-kiss was in 1st grade after eating Cheetos (unfortunate), under a bed during a game of hide and seek. My first REAL kiss was in 6th grade during a game of truth or dare.
Trust me, I would NEVER lose my virginity under a bed or during truth or dare!! Hahahahaha...
Most people kiss a LOT more people than they sleep with. (I've probably kissed like, Lord I don't know... 75? 100 people? But I've only slept with one!) First kisses are great memories, great stories, but I wouldn't say that they amount to the significance of virginity. Such a great question (mostly because I got to wander back into my memories!). Thanks, sweet!
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reader, Odds +, writes (20 January 2011):
 A friend of mine is Japanese, and says they consider they first "adult kiss" to be part of the passage into adulthood. Here in America or Canada, it's a fun, awesome moment, but not a really momentous occasion.
First kiss between couples is a great moment, though. My first kiss wasn't really special, just a semi-drunken part of a (failed) attempt to lose my virginity early on in high school. I'd take any first kiss between any girl I've actually dated and myself over that one. Those are special.
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reader, viccra78 +, writes (20 January 2011):
I don't think that you first kiss ever is really that important. Usually most people are school kids messing around on the playground.
Now this is totally personal opinion...I do however think that when you are in a relationship the kiss is everything! If the kiss doesn't light a fire, usually nothing in the relationship will. For me, it is all in the kiss.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (20 January 2011):
 To me a kiss is a kiss and nothing more or less. If you kiss someone you love then it's great, but kissing someone for fun is ok too. It depends on who you are and what you think yourself. For me kisses are only important when they are given to someone you deeply care about. Kisses could be nothing but a way to use your time if it's with someone you don't care about.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (20 January 2011):
 Cute question.
My first kiss was when I was 5, I chased the cutest little boy on the playground. I think his name was Jeremiah. Anyway, he was chasing after me one day, caught me and we kissed. Did the best we could for 5 and seeing on TV. Well the next day, he was chasing another little girl on the playground, caught, and kissed her!
We established over playtime one day we were boyfriend and girlfriend...not only did I get cheated on but the kiss we shared meant nothing! Very heartbreaking at 5.
Kisses are pretty disposable. I mean, we kiss our parents, nephew, niece, grandma, in other countries where it's a greeting, and our significant other. So we're really pecking a lot of people. Some are pecks but still have meaning behind them, were as one is romantic, passionate kiss. It's very possible that when this guy kissed you, he didn't feel anything. There were no sparks, fireworks, maybe he was expecting more and it just wasn't there for him. Maybe you've opened a whole new can of worms for him, and he's going to go around swapping spit with every girl in sight. Because it's fun, new, he gets an adrenaline rush, and quite possibly an erection.
So I suppose a kiss is nothing but just a kiss.
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reader, Illithid +, writes (20 January 2011):
 I treat kissing with respect. In fact, I've never kissed a girl I wasn't in a relationship with. But my first wasn't with a very special girl and I haven't even got fond memories of her now, but the kiss was while dating her and I don't regret that. It was the first, but it won't be my last or my best.
But remember, many peple don't even care about their virginity or view it with contempt, something to be rid of as soon as possible. Different folks have different feelings about what's important.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2011): I think you've already answered your own question. You say that, "To me it's almost like your virginity." Clearly, he did not feel the same way and I would wager that most people would agree with him. Maybe he probably felt left behind in by his social peers and wanted some intimacy or experience?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2011): The importance of a first kiss depends on the person. My first boyfriend, at 13, gave me my first kiss. I didn't like him all that much, but he had been my best friend at that point. Kissing him didn't feel right, but I did it cuz he asked. He turned out to be a jerk a few days later, but it didn't bother me that I'd given him my first kiss. It never has.
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