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26-29,
*llRiledUp010
writes:Hey there! Okay, I'm beginning to believe stereotypes and bad notions about teenage boys. Maybe even males in general. Like most other fifteen year old girls, I have a Facebook account. I've posted about three hundred photos, but none were very explicit or revealing. Actually, most were just of my face, or face and shoulders. I noticed other girls were getting attention because of skinny full-body pictures in bathing suits. Guys were almost drooling over them. I have a trim body, but it's uncomfortable for me to just slam it on my Facebook wall saying "here's my body." Last night, I told a best friend about a new bikini I bought, and she asked me to post it on her wall. It was uncomfortable, but I did it. Minutes later, my notifications box was filled with comments and likes, and inbox messages asking me for my number. All from males. I'm beginning to think that all guys want girls for their bodies, not how they are on the inside. It just bothers me enough to the point where I am turning down any potential boyfriends who ask me out. How can I change this perception?
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (21 March 2011):
 Yes, teenage boys are a bit obsessed with girls bodies, at their age all they tend to think about is sex because of their hormones running riot (they cant really help it!). So when they see a pretty girl in a bikini of course they are going to notice it more than just a picture of a girl's face, and of course they will get excited about it!
I think first of all - just be flattered! So many girls come on this site asking why no boys notice them, if they are unattractive etc. So at least boys are noticing how pretty you are, and while it is a bit pervy and inappropriate at least it is a compliment to you!
And most importantly - realise that this is Facebook, not the real world. When you are online many people act in a way they would not normally act in real life, because they have the protection of the internet to allow them to do and say what they want with very few consequences. Imagine if you had your new bikini on at the beach, and all these boys from Facebook were there at the beach - I bet none of them would dare come up to you and say the things they said on your wall on facebook. Being online gives you anonymity, it means you can say things you would not say to someone face to face. So really, if you met these boys in real life they would not act this way!
I think if boys ask you out online - then say no as chances are they are only interested in 1 thing. But if a boy is brave enough to ask you out to your face, and you like him - then go for it. It shows if he asks you out in person that he really likes you, because it is a hard thing to do to ask somone out face to face.
And try not to worry about this too much - teen boys are hormonal and a bit obsessed with sex and girls bodies, but they do grow out of it eventually!
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2011): lol imagine if one day all the males over the world only fancy older women in there 60s what do you think would happen to the human race.
good luck in changing a way a man thinks. I sure you mom is doing a great job with your father in the way he thinks
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reader, ClearEyes +, writes (21 March 2011):
Alright well yea, teenage boys are horndogs. While I am not guilty of the spamming I certainly know people who are, but you need to realize that the basis for any romantic relationship is physical attraction. Theres no reason to read the book if you don't like the image on the cover.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2011): If you are basing your opinions of an entire sex on Facebook comments... no wonder you think the way you do.
The internet is 90 percent perverts (from all sexes) and 10 percent people.
You want to meet the true male sex... get off the computer and just go out and talk to people.
Flynn 24
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