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writes:Hey! There’s a little problem that I have that I probably have put off for too long. Here goes…. So there’s this guy at school who is (or at least in my opinion) a great guy. He’s cute, super smart (and I should know- he’s one of the smartest person in our AP classes), really nice and really athletic (basketball, soccer, Frisbee, you name it).Anyway, he’s really nice to everyone, so I wasn’t sure if he was just being affable or if he might actually like me. So here’s a bit of a stuff that might be influential. I was wondering if anyone could make heads or tails of it. We had an Arthurian Tales project earlier this year in Literature and he was in my group (we had four people total). Because the other two people were less eager to work, we were the only two who answered the questions. Later, we had to work on a larger project together as a whole group dealing with the Arthurian Tales so I offered to do the drawing for all three of them (because I’m better at art than they are), and two of them consented. The guy refused, and so we did our parts for the project separately. Later, the day before the due date, he had me how much I had done and I said I did the other two people’s parts already, but very little of mine. I assured him that I would be able to finish it in time, but he still ended up teasing me about it. Then, in Latin class, we had a huge project about ancient Roman architecture still standing today in Europe. Because my project dealt with building an architectural building out of food, I didn’t work on it at school, but rather did it at home. However, the rest of the class spent time during class to work on theirs, including the guy. I went over to talk with him and his partner and helped them build their bridge. I laughed saying that it was a bit flimsy and teased them about the model. Both laughed and ended up putting aside my comments. Another day, I was really happy because I found out that we got a really good grade on our Arthurian project so I told him. We were the first of our group to know. I did my whole ‘I’m-really-happy’ clap and he ended up teasing me by copying the clap sarcastically. Later in the year, we had a Poetry Anthology assignment in Literature worth a hundred points. About a week before it was due, as we were walking back to our lockers (they are close together since we both have the same first period class), he asked me if I had finished by anthology yet. We talked a bit about it until we reached our lockers, both admitting that we had not done much work on it yet. When we finally turned our anthologies in, we had to display them to the class. We each put our anthologies on our desks with a piece of paper for others to write comments on it. So, we went around and I kept looking over at my desk as I read others’ anthologies. I saw him walking around in the general area and finally sat down. But before long, the period was over and we had to turn everything in to be graded. However, when I got the comments sheet back, his comment was the last one. It said, "I really liked how you wrote about quests and stories. They were really interesting." When I questioned him later, he said that he never really got to read them because by the time he got to my anthology, the period was over. At another time, I had a huge math exam and because I did not understand a question, I asked a good friend of mine. She’s extremely brilliant, and like the guy, was in an AP math class that was one level ahead of the norm. The guy overheard, and since he didn’t understand either, referred me to another person. He was really trying to be helpful, and the next day, asked me if I had figured out the answer yet. Also, several times, while my friends and I were just sitting around and talking during Free Period, he would come over from across the room to join in, joking and laughing with us. On the last two days of school, our Literature class (or at least half of us) pitched in together to complete a 1,000 piece puzzle of all the most important people of the century. I had asked if I could join and he said "sure." I’m not the greatest at puzzles, so whenever I got a piece right, I was extremely ecstatic. He (and several others) kept teasing me saying things like, "Yay, you finally got a piece!" in a really sarcastic tone. He also teased me using a comment I had said earlier (which was, "Hey, I’m not bad at all puzzles; I can do 10 piece ones really well!). Finally, I felt that I really couldn’t help any longer and after constant reminders that I was horrid at puzzles, I got into a fit and left. Whilst I was standing and watching everyone else work on the puzzles, someone came up to me and asked why I wasn’t helping. Indignantly, I retorted that "They told me not to work," to which he replied "We didn’t!" in an irritated manner. The next day (or last day of school), when I first got into the room, it was already utterly chaotic. A guy in our class had brought in a small, rubber, bouncy ball and accidentally threw it at the puzzle workers. It hit him on the back slightly the first time, and a few minutes later, squarely hit the puzzle and broke pieces off. He was really mad so he took the ball and wouldn’t give it back to the other guy. I told him "Just give it back to them," to which he replied, "Why should I? Why would you care?" A while later, I got back into the group and sat down next to him. I was wearing my graduation dress, and for the first time that morning, he noticed it. "Wow," he said with a glance in my direction, and then he went back to work. The last few bits of things that I can still remember is something that deals with yearbooks. I had nothing to do in Latin class one day in the last week of school, so I asked to ‘sign’ his yearbook. I had already written a little message earlier with something along the lines of "Have a great summer," but now I wanted to decorate an entire page. Everyone in our classes knew what an ‘artaholic’ (as they put it) I am and how I would decorate and doodle all over anything I can get my hands onto. They also found out during yearbook-time that I LOVED writing and drawing in yearbooks. Some of them actually tried taking up a lot of room in MY yearbook just because I did that in theirs, and it was a way that they could irritate me. After a bit of pleading, he finally relented, but warned me only to take up ONE page, and that was all. So, I used my Sharpies and doodled all over and around messages. When I finally returned it to him, the page was nothing but a swirl of colors. He thanked me and then went back to his seat. I caught him surveying the book thoughtfully and even pointed something out to his friend, but since I wasn’t in hearing distance, I couldn’t tell what he said. Later, he had asked me to decorate another page because someone (we both know) who has really bad spelling and stuff wrote in his book that he thought would ‘ruin his yearbook’ (excuse?). I did so, and he thanked me yet again. I had also asked him to sign my yearbook and this is exactly what it says, "___, Thanks for making all of the really cool designs in my yearbook. I’ll (which was later scribbled out). Yours is the coolest "signature" I have. It has been fun being in Latin class and Literature with you! Have an awesome summer. See you next year!" He then signed his name in block letters. Because I had specifically asked everyone in my yearbook to decorate it, he drew (around the borders of the message) pictures of people we knew. He also drew the King of France, Sir Gawain, Gawain’s "horse/camel/dino" and "Me [meaning him], the artist… a long time from now." He labeled all of the pictures and wrote at the top, "My attempt at decoration." Finally, when school let out for the summer, I told him over my shoulder to "Have fun in N.Y." He paused for a moment and then said, "Huh? Oh, yeah. New York. Yeah, thanks." Well, that’s the end of it. I know that it was really long, so I’m sorry! But please help me out! Is he just being friendly or might this be something more?
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reader, PsyCookie +, writes (14 July 2008):
 I really think he's just being a friend. Everything that you wrote (yes, I read everything) indicated to me something that my friends would do or that any friend would do. Enjoy his friendship with him because like you said, he's a very nice guy.
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reader, Tremor  +, writes (14 July 2008):
 I think you're making too much of this. Looks to me like he's just being friendly.
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