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writes:my boyfriend and i use to fight all the time . now that we are in seperate housing i dont want him any more and he still finds ways to get in good with me .. what should i do we been together for 3 years and been seperated for 2 months and i dont feel the same about him and every time i ak him to come and spend the night he doesnt but he always want me to come over his house and he still be asking me who at my house and who am having sex with or who calling me .. what should i do and i already have a new boyfriend and is it wrong to move on yet ,,,,
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reader, Kat_M_2011 +, writes (20 October 2010):
 If you're separated, then honey you're separated. You have a new boyfriend, therefore making whoever you're seeing not his business anymore, but your new mans business. You don't owe your ex any details on that level, you two are separated. And don't let him keep using you, he's obviously insecure, you owe it to yourself to be happy and it doesnt sound like you're happy when your ex uses you and gets in your business. So tell him this DIRECTLY. Don't beat around it. Tell him you don't owe him anything and if he can't respect that then to get out. It's not fair to you or your new boyfriend for that matter.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (20 October 2010):
 Why are you calling your ex your BF if you have a new BF?
To me, you're the crazy one and don't diserve either of them. You're a cheater. Why not dump both of them since you're not committed to either?
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reader, Kat_M_2011 +, writes (20 October 2010):
Hey girl! So three years eh? That's a long time. Three years is long enough to where a relationship is becoming one of 2 things. Boring and you know the other person's true colors. So should you move on? Absolutely. "To thine self be true"- William shakespeare, you owe it to yourself to move on and be with someone who appreciates your full potential and your beauty and is worthy of your heart. Someone who knows he's lucky to have you. This guy you were with before just doesn't sound as if he is worth anymore of your time. He's just using you to fulfill his needs and to keep a part of your past alive. Three years is a long time yes, but you are with someone else now, so pour your heart into this new relationship and don't pay your ex a second thought. You owe it to yourself to respect your heart and respect your new man. I hope all works out for you!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (20 October 2010):
 Well if you dont feel the same way about him and you have a new boyfriend then why are you asking your ex to spend the night with you?
In my opinion its probably best you are single for a while if you are wanting your ex to stay with you over night as this will spell trouble.
If you are wanting to get away from your ex then tell him not to contact you again because you have moved on and dont want him asking you all of these personal questions.
I think it would be healthy for you and your boyfriend if you lose contact from your ex but if you are not ready to do this then it sounds like you are not ready to be in another relationship.
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reader, defeated  +, writes (20 October 2010):
well if u got a new bf its time to move on
are u going over to his place for sex, if so shouldnt u tell ur new bf
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