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*onfusedsoul
writes:My fiance would only only accept me if i was nice to her all the time or no complaining to her, get angry on her and keep entertaining her with talking interesting things. Are these unrealistic expectations on her part or all women are like this?
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reader, Gem86  +, writes (14 June 2007):
 haha yes! just kidding.
As long as youre sure you genuinely havent done something which would upset her (ie: you just arent nice to her ever), then I believe its her problem. Yes, women can be a pain, I should know! (men can be too may I add.) But we're not all like that, honnestly.
Im sure you'll meet someone who's much better suited to you, and they wont have such unrealistic expectations of relationships. Take care xxx
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reader, Hurkle  +, writes (13 June 2007):
These are definitely unrealistic expectations. And no, not all women are like that.
However, western civilization has created a strong sense of entitlement in many modern women. These women expect a lot more from men - not only to be their equal in work and play, but to be treated like a princess as well.
When you find a woman who does not give back what you give to her, or who makes you feel bad for being yourself, then you have found a woman you you do not need to be with.
The goal of a successful relationship is not that of master/slave or of entertainer/entertained (well, for most people, anyway). It is a partnership. An understanding partnership based on respect and shared burdens.
If you are consistently asked to be a different person, or to push down your needs and wants and emotions for the other person's benefit, you are not being respected, and your burdens are not being shared.
But only you can decide if you still want that relationship. I wouldn't.
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx +, writes (13 June 2007):
 All adults are not like this, no. In a relationship there will be times when it's all fun and giggles but other times there needs to be seriousness and she has to understand this. You need to talk to her and see if she is willing to try and change. She sounds very immature and maybe her seeing a counsellor would help.
At the end of thr day, this may just be her personality. She enjoys it when things are going well but isn't great in bad times. If you can put up with that, that's fine, if not maybe it's time to move on.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2007): Yes, most women want men to treat them very nice and not be aggressive. Women admire men to be entertaining and very funny, that keeps them laughing and thinking about you. Most women don't like men who are easily angry, have short tempers, abusive, and etc. This would lead women to be scared of you and leaving you for sure. Women likes men who have an extraordinary, strong and kind personality. Hope this helps! Goodluck.
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