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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:HelloI'm married and my husband has all his exes on social media and still speaks to them. I have told him I feel its inappropriate to talk to your exes when their part of his past. He is also addicted to his cell phone. He has many Male friends and they talk alot during the day on social media. I will be sitting there and bored because he seems to ignore me while he is busy with his friends. Many times he tells me it's a different culture thing. That in his culture they all stick together and I should be more understanding. Am I just being insecure or is this something I should worry about ?
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reader, Youcannotbeserious  +, writes (24 June 2018):
 While it does sound like your husband pays you little attention, I have to wonder if you don't have unrealistic expectations of him. Do you spend time chatting with friends of our own, or do you expect him to entertain you all the time?
Also, there is a lot you are not saying here. How long have you been married? Is this a "marriage of convenience" where he wanted to come and live in your country so got married. Now he has what he wanted, he pays you little attention? Asking as I assume he is younger than you, given his contact with ex girlfriends. Someone of a similar age to you would be far less inclined to do this as social media would not have been around when they were dating, or at least would have been in its infancy.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (24 June 2018):
 What are you getting out of this marriage, it certainly doesn't sound like you get respect or that your opinions and concerns are listened to.
You cant change him, but you can change the way you are, you need to decide if your current life is one you are happy to live for the next 30 or so years, or not. If it is, then settle for being ignored and disrespected.
Are you able to support yourself? If you are then consider moving out (or moving him out), we weren't put on this earth to live miserable lives with husbands who, rather than loving and cherishing, forsaking all others, do the absolute opposite.
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